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Dec 19, 2007
 You CAN change how you feel . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

If you change how you think, you change how you feel, Laura. As long as you continue to tell yourself that you led your uncle on, you'll continue to blame yourself. Your logical mind is telling you that you didn't deserve to have your uncle molest you, while your emotional mind is trapped in self-blame and guilt. As a child, you were placed in an impossible situation; a situation that no child should ever be put in. Your uncle took advantage of you and your deep-seeded need to keep your sister safe from harm. Your mother abandoned and betrayed you when she called you a slut and a whore and when she refused to protect you. And by the way, what she said was completely absurd! Your uncle was the adult, you were the child. It doesn't matter what you did; you have no responsibility in that. He's the one who must be held accountable. Commend yourself for shielding your sister and stop telling yourself you deserved to be molested, because you didn't deserve to be sexually assaulted by a sex offender. If this was your sister who had done the safeguarding instead of you, would you be blaming her? I doubt it. So why wouldn't the same rules apply to you?

I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counselling, Laura. You need to sort out the emotional trauma, as well the feelings of betrayal, abandonment, guilt and self-blame. Give yourself what no one else would. THAT'S what you deserve.
Feb 07, 2008
 I understand
by: LMC

Laura, what you did to protect your little sister was so brave! I know you feel guilty about doing it, but you saved her from what you had to endure. Your mother is hardly a real mother. She is a coward for not protecting you and for putting her own needs first.

I had a similar experience, my sister who was 4 years younger than me, had my cousin, 10 yrs older, come to babysit us and began to molest me. I was like you, I preferred that to his hurting my little sister. She was only 4 and I was 8.

When I see my cousin now, I am not afraid of him! I was for a long time but now I'm in my 60's and have healed a lot. You did nothing wrong, your uncle was the adult and knew better. He knew how to manipulate a child!

You deserve all the love and protection the world can offer. God bless you.
Feb 23, 2008
 For Laura...
by: Children's & Youth Worker

I'm sorry (as many are) to read that. But here's a few things I wanted to say. From everyone who reads i'm sure. Thank You for saving your sister. You are what people call a HERO. You did something eternally scarring to save someone you loved. So if ever you find it hard, look up and remember. YOU'RE A REAL LIFE HERO. I'm so sorry also that he didn't get convicted. Justice is sometimes slow. But please don't feel dis-heartened. Also, u kno his deep desire so can warn others. Take Care, all the best. Justin
Mar 10, 2008
 about your story
by: Anonymous

don't feel bad. When you were a child, you were heroic. You saved your sister from that horrible experience and took the abuse for yourself.
That was self sacrificial. Don't ever feel bad or worthless for being your sister's savior.
I am disgusted at how your mother handled the situation. I hate women who choose men over their own children.
Hell reserves a special place for your scumbag uncle.

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