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Apr 10, 2008
 A counsellor can help...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

My deepest condolences on the loss of your father, Krystal. The consequences of his choices left you, his beloved little girl, without a loving daddy in your life. Although your stepfather is an alcoholic, that is no excuse for his battering treatment of you. The fact that your mother buries herself in work and weed instead of protecting you from an abusive stepfather makes her every bit as responsible for the abuse he inflicts upon you. She's an enabler; and as such, should be held accountable for the abuse she has allowed to go on. And your stepfather should be held accountable for the abuse he continues to inflict. You deserve so much better, Krystal. You don't deserve to be beaten.

As for the sexual abuse you suffered at the hands of your brother's friend, I can understand the feelings of betrayal with your brother. I can understand why you hold your brother responsible; you believe he should have protected you. You believe he should have known what was going on. You believe he abandoned you the way your father abandoned you. But he's not responsible, Krystal; his friend is. It wasn't your brother's fault, just as it wasn't your fault. The fault lies solely with the boy who did the molesting.

I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what is happening in your home.

As for your relationship with Mathew, I'm glad you have a support in him; you need a compassionate ear. But to look to Mathew as your rescuer is to give your own power away, Krystal. As impossible as it seems to you right now, only YOU can rescue yourself. Only YOU can make changes in your life that will lead to a healthy life situation. From what you've written, your plan to move in with Mathew early next year is about getting away from your abusive home. That is not the way to start a live-in relationship. Please consider speaking with a counsellor at Child Help about your future plans, as well as about what is happening in your home right now. There are alternatives that you may not have considered. And you are much too smart to ignore what those alternatives—and possibilities—are.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Apr 10, 2008
 Poor Child.
by: Linda

Krystal, thank you for sharing your story on this website. I'm sorry for your father dying the way he did. It must have been horrible for you. You seem like an angry young woman and you have every right to be. I don't know what's wrong with men today. Abusing children sexually to fulfill their egoes. It is so disgusting. They all need to sent to prison for life! There are professionals out there who can help you. Don't be afraid to report the scum who abused you. They deserve it! Good luck to you, I'm in your corner.

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