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Dec 18, 2007
 Choices
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Kristen, what happened to you should never have happened. Your mother and father should have been more loving. They should have been there for you when you needed them the most.

Now, as a young adult in college now, you have choices, Kristen. You can choose to continue to hate the world for letting you down, or you can choose to embrace the world and work with it to make a better life for yourself. You certainly have the strength; you proved that when you quit drinking all by yourself last August. CONGRATULATIONS!!! That takes tremendous intestinal fortitude!

And I hope you've stopped cutting. I understand why you do it; it's not just a high and an adrenalin rush, it's a way to remove yourself from the unbearable emotional pain. Physical pain is so much easier to deal with than the excruciating emotional stuff. If there's an opportunity for you to get into counselling, I strongly urge you to do so. The right counsellor will be able to help you sort through your anger and hostility, and hopefully, your self-harming behaviour.

Stay clean, Kristen.
Dec 18, 2007
 Wow
by: LLS Buffalo

Hi Kristen,
As I read your story there was so much of it that felt as though I had written it myself. I was the good kid in the family and my parents seemed to spend all their time and efforts on the baddest one. It was that way until my mother and father died. Always the bad one. My mom was like yours, yelling hitting, and manipulating. She was a schizophrene. I used to hate my father for dieing of cancer when I was 12 cuz he essentially abandoned me and left me with her. She had me all alone. It was a scarey life. I could not figure it out why I was the kid like you who could never please my mom. I think maybe our moms picked a special one to control. It's kinda like a bully picking the sweetest kid to go after? Do you think it was that? They do choose their victims.
Im sorry you hated summers and your dad didnt stick up for you more. I know it sucks to have parents like ours. Im so sorry to have read a story that I could feel like yours. Please dont let yourself fall into the hole they tried to dig for you. I always grew up knowing I would get out of there and be more successful than any of them. I always wanted them to look over at me and say 'damn her, how the hell did she end up so happy and well-off?' That's pretty much what I want for you. I think you will be a good mommy someday because you know all the things to avoid. Please forge ahead. Be strong Kristen. Screw them and what they think about you. Your life now. It's all you. Best wishes. LLS Buffalo (story and recovery are posted)
Dec 18, 2007
 Wow I know how you feel
by: Chrissy

I'm so sorry about the things you've went through. You should how ever be proud of yourself. The fact that you have recognized you have issues and you know where they stem from. Means you on a track most people who have been abused can only dream about. Your not in denial so that means you are ready to heal. So you do all you can to heal. because Abuse is a vicious cycle. The only way to insure you are a repeater is to get educated in child development and early child development, and proper child discipline. The more you know the better prepared you'll be. usually abuse stems from expecting to much from a child and becoming frustrated to the point of violence. So if you know what to expect you wont expect to much and there will be no need to become stressed.

You are on the road to healing so good luck,

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