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Dec 06, 2008
 Not beaten to a pulp, but definitely abused...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're right, Koran, you can't change your father and you can't change your mother. And yes, you can change your life. And based on what you've written, I'd say if anyone has the wherewithal to do so, you do. But if you want true happiness, a chip on your shoulder the size of a garbage truck will find you anything but happy. I speak from personal experience here.

You say you don't want help; been there done that didn't do a thing. I get that. Many of the visitors on this site get that. We can relate on many levels. What I've come to learn over the course of my 5 decades on this planet is that we get what we believe we'll get. If we don't believe we'll get the help using various resources, chances are, we won't. A positive outlook is key; but it's almost impossible to stay positive when we are in a painful and harmful environment, when we believe the cruel and negative comments about us, the comments that those who are suppose to love us fire off at us at regular intervals.

I've also come to learn that those who say the loudest that they don't want help are the ones who both need and want it the most. Perhaps you're the exception. I wasn't. When I entered therapy more than 25 years ago, I was full of been-there-done-that-wrote-the-bloody-book, know-it-all-you-can't-tell-me-a-damn-thing attitude. I didn't need to be there. I didn't need help. I didn't want help. I could do it all on my own. Right. Yet there I was, in the office of a psychiatrist, borderline anorexic, no friends, having difficulty at work, unable to relate to my co-workers, painfully unhappy, emotionally battered, with a debilitating stomach ailment that my doctors couldn't diagnose, hurting so bad inside that I thought I'd bust. My "attitude" was a veneer. But again, perhaps you're the exception.

I won't offend you by suggesting you enter into some form of counselling, and I won't insult you by recommending you contact any particular hotline for help. But if you change your mind, I'd be more than happy to offer the information.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Koran; I, for one, am very happy you did. I do wish you all the best. You certainly deserve all the best.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Dec 06, 2008
 you are somebody
by: touched2mysoul

You are somebody... your expressiveness in your writing is clear and real... thank you for sharing your story... abuse is in many forms and it hurts regardless of it being physical or emotional. Hurt is hurt... not being validated hurts!
You are somebody.. you are bright and articulate ... i wish you the best..

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