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Aug 07, 2009
 You didn't have the power to prevent it; the power was in the hands of your abusers, and they misused that power...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing more of your story and your deepest feelings with my visitors and me, K.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 08, 2009
 one must work at it. Think Positive, Act positive and Be positive
by: maurice

K sadly it is a daily struggle for all of us who have been abused to Let Go of it. But Let Go we must. It is a gradual and uphill struggle each day we wake up. But I am the better for it if I can Think Positive thoughts and feel good feelings Knowing that It was not my fault. Read Darlene's brief but very strong loving and re-assuring words to you in her comment. They will empower you to begin distancing yourself from the awful abuse you experienced at the hands of those who keep you where you are trying your best to live a good life. K seek the help of a counsellor/therapist to begin your healing from abuse. Set small steps for yourself to reach each day, get out of Bed, Shower and speak these positive thoughts about yourself while setting one step at a time, one day at a time, Start off your day with a positive outlook. I love me feelings. I am the most important person to make life worth living for me. Hug yourself in front of that mirror era go on, it is not a silly thing I am asking you to do. You need to build up your own self worth, self esteem. Your abusers did you such an injustice that only you can be the winner over it. You must LOVE yourself. You must let those you trust LOVE you, Hug you, allowing you to be true to yourself in the steps you take each day to Live well, Laugh alot, and LOVE much. K say, confidently each day you jump out of bed which you seem to finding a difficulty with right now, say I can, I will, I must with a gentle kick on you know what, do it for yourself. K you're not alone in your feelings all of Darlene's Visitors including herself get those negative feelings about our abuse from time to time. Letting go of the negative vibes they create almost instantly when they begin to rule us isn't easy but let go gradually we must. Just put a positive thought there and do something to take your mind off the negative thoughts. You seem to be dwelling on having been abused without moving away each time you think about it. K only listen to those people around you who love and respect you for who you are NOW in your life. Hi don't forget jump out of bed, have a refreshing shower, soothe away any negative thoughts feelings as you shower by letting them go down the drain with the water you use. Then stand in front of the mirror and be gentle and kind to your body especially the parts that recall the not so nice memories for you of your abuse. I can, I will, I must just for the ME in the mirror. Possibly doing things for others will be a help for you to forget about yourself. Have an active mind in an active body. I believe in you. will you begin to believe in YOURSELF and love the wonderful and beautiful YOU now. The past leave it with God, The present live it for yourself and God, the future entrust it all to God. I'M SPECIAL and I LOVE ME IN THE MIRROR.
Aug 08, 2009
 My thoughts are with you
by: kristen

I am just writing to say be strong and look at the day with eyes open and enjoy. Be positive.
Aug 09, 2009
 Always Believe in YOURSELF: Most important
by: maurice

There's goodness and greatness in each birthed Human being. Sadly when one gets a bad start not being acknowledged as such through being treated inferior by parents, and others in our childhood lowering our self esteem rather than building it up. K you certainly were abused and the effects of that certainly are still there. Just read Darlene's words to you in her comment. You are articulate in writing your feelings. You are intelligent, you are a good woman, you are a great woman. Only you can shake off the negative feelings about yourself. Only you can jump out of bed each day being fully alive, awake, alert, and very enthusiastic about living YOUR life to the full. Only you can have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Once you heed what Darlene wrote to you then you will know I believe in You. That's fine K The most important thing is for you TO ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. You will need help to do this the way you are feeling right now. Seek professional help where possible, then allow your nearest and dearest friend(s) to love and hug back to Believing in Yourself. Begin slowly to build up a good Mirror image of your self. Think positive, act positive, be positive each time you look at the wonderful and beautiful woman you are not what others said about you. Read Darlene's words of affirmation in that area to you. Your abusers did an injustice to you. Now you must see yourself Pretty and beautiful. All our acceptance of this come from within us. I'M SPECIAL, UNIQUE, THERE IS ONLY ONE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL ME IN THIS WORLD. Look in that Mirror saying all positive things about yourself and your NOW beautiful body, not the body that was defiled by abuse. I love me begin to say in front of that Mirror. As you shower let all the negative stuff you feel about yourself flow away down the drain or Pee it down the toilet. Sorry for being a bit vulgar in saying that to You K. But you must slowly begin to rid yourself of the negative about yourself. So gently kick you know what and jump out of bed and have something to enthuse you to get up. Okay, over to YOU. You'll be fine, Don't Quit. I can, I will, I must live my life to the full. No one else will do it for me. You have loads of real caring and loving visitors on Darlene's Site who want only what is the best for you. Gently but firmly begin to Live well, Laugh alot, Love much.
Aug 31, 2009
 Celebrate your Recovery
by: Ali

I know it is beyond hard for you to realize that you can get beyond this awful hurt & pain but, you can and you will succeed. You were not destroyed all in one shot and you will not heal all in one shot either. Hey I got bounced out of church at 13 and put out forever because I divorced my husband after his 3rd attempt to kill me. I went years angry at God and his church people. Long story short, I found a personal relationship with God that was not a religious one.
I do attend a church today and I am leading a womens ministry for women that have been physically,emoionally or sexually abused . This is part of Celebrate Recovery ministries. You can find them online to find a meeting in your area. My mission is to go back for all my sisters that have stood through the abuse as I have. The Good News is you can have a positive present and future.

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