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Aug 28, 2008
 Fabulous fosters...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm delighted that Social Services took you away from that life of misery, Katherine. And I'm just as delighted to learn that you are still in school and plan to graduate. You have not allowed the suffering you endured to overtake your ability to make decisions for yourself...so many do; that tells me how amazingly strong you are. The fact that you haven't allowed anyone, including your mother, to nullify or in any way discredit what you know to be true tells me that you have such resilience. Regardless of being told that the sexual abuse didn't happen, you know in your heart what is and isn't real. Many who have been abused start to question their memories when others around them question them. But you didn't—haven't—Katherine. We are kindred spirits in that way: No matter how many times my mother outright denied the abuse, no matter how many times she told me I was sick and twisted and needed to be "locked up", no matter how many times she told me she "never wanted another Darlene...", I hung on to the knowledge of what was real and true.

You sound like a spiritual person. Gain even greater strength with that spirituality, Katherine. Never lose sight of who you truly are. But you may need help. I hope you are in some form of therapy in order to help you deal with the emotional residue of what you lived through in that terrible environment your parents called a home. You didn't get the love and nurturing and support you deserved with your biological parents. You said you are doing great in the foster home; that tells me you are a part of a loving family now. Cherish that love, Katherine, and return it. That love will stay with you and take you far as you grow into the special person I believe you to be.

If you haven't already, please tell Social Services what your father did to you. It could help protect your 12-year-old sister from suffering the same fate. You're a good person, Katherine. You have a caring heart. Even though she may have been party to the horrible things you suffered through when you still lived with your parents, I don't believe you want her to have to deal with the same as you did at the hands of your perverted father. She may already be dealing.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 28, 2008
 I can relate...
by: Linda Settles

You are not alone, Katherine. Children are so vulnerable to abusive parents because of their tender hearts and immature reasoning skills. I thank God that you have been taken out of your abusive home.

I sense your love for your 12 year old sister through your letter, and I understand what you are going through with that. I was the oldest child in my birth-family and my greatest fear was that I would be removed from the home (if I told) and my sisters would be left to suffer my father's depravity. I thought I could protect them. To some degree, I did. They experienced far less abuse than I did, but their life would have been much better if they had been removed from my father's influence.

I, like Darlene, encourage you to seek help in processing your past. I pray that you will find the courage, at some point, to expose what your father did to you. He will not stop abusing until he has to face his crimes. He will just find another target.

You have come so far. I have all confidence that you will continue your growth and healing.
Aug 28, 2008
 Katherine, you have a beautiful name...
by: Francine

Dearest Katherine, what your so-called parents did to you and your siblings is very pathetic and EXTREMELY UNGRATEFUL!!!!!!! They are so sadistic that they should've gone to prison for the rets of their miserable lives! Well, I'm glad that Social Services took you away from those monsters cuz you, your brother and even your 12-year-old sister did nothing wrong. I'm so sorry that you didn't have good parents...I've been through the same relationship with my psycho parents. They, too, are ballistic and abusive after my grandparents' pet dog Katia died. You might want to try counselling. You might also want to call the police on your sadistic so-called parents for willingly hurting your beloved sister. I wish you and your new foster family all the best, and the same goes to your siblings. You are so strong and my heart bleeds for you and your siblings. Hang in there, sweetie!

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