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Apr 18, 2013
 Kai:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that you've shared your story here shows that your healing has begun. Not only were you abused by this sick and twisted "boyfriend" of your mother's, but also by your mother. She betrayed and abandoned you. She had to have known what was happening to you; there would have been signs. As for the abused just "stopping", in all likelihood, this abuser was probably interested only in very young children, disgusting as that sounds. It's not uncommon for such abusers to suddenly stop abusing a child when they get to a certain age. I can only hope that he has been removed from society so that he can no longer abuse any other child. It is a testament to your strength that you survived, Kai. I hope you'll consider some form of therapy in order to help you deal with what you endured. You deserve that kind of help. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 19, 2013
 Keep believing in yourself and your sense of injustice
by: Anonymous

I agree with everything Darlene said, and please consider continued therapy, when and as you are ready. Most importantly, hold onto your sense that what those sick, twisted individuals did was disgusting and WRONG. It was all, so wrong, and there are much better ways to live and seek joy/fulfilment in life. It will be a hard slog, but from what I can see of your character and determination, you will find true happiness and freedom in your life. Best of luck, and best regards.
Apr 19, 2013
 stay strong
by: Anonymous

This site is truly a blessing. I completely understand why you can't go into details about your abuse,I also have been abused and I haven't even wrote my story on here. I admire you for speaking out and being strong. I am so sorry for the abuse that you were forced to endure. I have many questions that probably will never be answered on why people choose to abuse children, how people become so different when sex is involved. I just don't get it how can a child be something of a sexual interest. I'm sorry. Stay strong
Apr 19, 2013
 Wow, just wow...
by: Anonymous

Kai, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, disgusting pervert of a boyfriend and his friends and allow them to rape you 24/7; how dare she! As for that sick boyfriend, I hope that he gets incarcerated with his friends for all those disgusting crimes that they committed against you because I'm sure they end up abusing other young kids too, since pedophiles don't change their ways until they're made to stop, so TELL, TELL, TELL!!!
Apr 30, 2013
 Heart Break
by: Cindy C.

To Kai ,
I am sorry that these monsters did those things to do. By sharing your story it helps , I have found that belonging to a community of fellow survivors helps because we are survivors that have come out of such dark times. I wish you peace and the best in life.
Apr 30, 2013
 thank you everyone
by: kai

Thank you all simply for caring and taking the time to read my story. I was afraid to put my story out there to the world in the first place, afraid of negative feedback, i had way to much of it as a child, a lot of people took it upon themselves to tell me i should blame myself partly for never telling anyone, let me tell you, from experience, when your a kid and everything you know is threatened to change, you'll keep a lot secret.
I'm working on getting counseling, the first try failed. The therapist i had did not seem to care in the least, that's when i realized how hard it is to talk about something like this to someone who doesn't care. I actually felt worse after talking to that therapist than before i walked in the door, so I'm still working on getting therapeutic help. Just writing it down for the first time actually helped me a great deal. I cried for maybe an hour after i submitted my story, just because i was allowing myself to remember everything, i was also nervous about the feedback i would get.
As a follow up to my story, I'm 29 now, i have two beautiful boys i thank God for every day, i was told long ago my body had been too messed up to be able to carry children. I have a few psychological issues. I'm a disorganized schizophrenic. My schizophrenia was brought on by early child hood trauma, obviously i know
what that trauma was. My psychiatrist for my schizophrenia does what she can tho help, but mental illness is her specialty, not the effects of child abuse. I don't still communicate with any of my blood family but i have friends that know about my past, a few are perfectly willing too talk to me in the middle of the night when i wake up with nightmare memories that seem so real it takes a few minutes tho realize that I'm not eight anymore. So, i still have some issues that need tho be worked on, but this site and friends that care about me, and a few other things are helping me a great deal, allowing me to live a normal life reguardless of the issues my childhood has caused
May 01, 2013
 love :-)
by: Anonymous

Kai, I am so glad you have support and continue to reach out for support despite the trials you've faced. I can relate very much to people turning to blame 'the victim' and minimising or turning a blind eye on the pain and wrongdoings. I've also had some experience with therapists as... Well, 'imperfect people/helpers' to be polite.

The biggest, most important thing is that we have our own wills, our own strengths, our own sense of morality and what's necessary for growth, happiness, fulfilment. Keep believing, searching and creating yourself and your life! Life throws us cards but we decide what to do with them. Sounds like you're doing ok :-)

bless you and those you love, that you do have love in your life and in yourself.

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