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Jan 17, 2010
 K2:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You know in your heart and logically that what you're saying is not true. You know in your heart and logically that abuse is never ever the child fault. You know all that deep down. What you're dealing with now are the emotions. Please get some help for what you're dealing with. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 18, 2010
 I must not deceive myself because I am worth it.
by: maurice

K2 I belive in you, but please as we begin another year 2010 you will think positive, act positive be positive in all you Believe about yourself. Darlene certainly put you right there. You are the most important child ever birthed no matter the circumstances and all the horrible abuse perpetrated on you. Remember you were a child, you were innocent, you were vunerable at the mercy of these four people. They all abused you equally irrespective who they are (were) Abuse is abuse. Please don't deceive yourself about the one you can't talk about He/She abused you. were wrong. did you an injustice, spoiled your childhood/teenage years to be truly loved and cherished as was your right. Hi know I am the most important, special, unique human being right NOW in my life. I can go on deceiveing myself, I can feel it would not be right for me to name my 4th abuser because he/she was closer than the others or whatever. Don't be fooled by that person if he/she is saying don't tell on me. You have your own feelings about what all four did to you. You still are trying to live through the effects of that abuse. Darlene certainly knows you are wonderful and beautiful in your own right NOW. Take action on her encourageing and loving suggestion and emphaties . She truly emphatises with you, she knows you way forward in your life. Read her comments over again. but please get off your bottom and do something about getting real help. You can't make a real sense of how you are felling until and unless you talk to a counsellor/therapist who will listen to you in total confidence. Bring a copy of what you have written to Darlene and her visitors to the professioal person. That will gently break the ice and lead you into a real healing process. So if you want to flatten out your bottom cheeks sitting their dwelling on the awfulness of what these four did to you, won't move on. So off your bottom and away to get help NOW. Don't deceive yourself please. You might find it is the better thing to do to deceive others you are fine, while deep within yourself you are being unfair to yourself. Your one very intelligent human being with flesh and bones, real feelings. hurt/pained etc about what these sicko's did to you in your innocent and vunerable years. GET A LIFE FOR YOURSELF. live well, laugh alot and love much as you start out on another year of your precious life.
Jan 19, 2010
 I admire you
by: Katie

I really do admire you...as scrambled as you think your thoughts are, you are VERY in touch with your emotions and how you feel about what happened to you. That is such a good start. I was molested by my father from age 5 to age 12 when I put an end to it. In the years that followed, I completely closed myself off emotionally because the emotions that leaked through were too huge and too painful to even face. I denied all emotions because I thought they would bring only pain. What I ended up learning was that because I shielded myself and protected myself like that, I had actually made myself weaker, because I never faced any of what I felt. I've had to go back to the very beginning and feel the torture all over again to set it free. Luckily you are aware of how you feel! You don't block it off, you actually think about it! Many victims of sexual abuse don't remember their abuse until they're much older and their lives have already been negatively affected by it. You're very very lucky to remember everything that you do, and to be in touch with your heart. Even though your heart is hurting, it is the most precious thing that you have. You have been through deep suffering my friend, and it seems the suffering will continue for the time being. You will learn later that because you felt such deep suffering, you can feel joy and happiness and love that runs JUST as deep. That will be the moment that you will realize the strengths you've gained, and you will learn that you have access to a dimension of human experience that not everyone else does. Your soul will be able to fill with more love than the shallow soul of someone who has not suffered at all.
When I have felt like I could just sink into oblivion, or I could smash everything in my house and town, or I couldn't stop crying, I've come across many an amazing quote that have helped me through...I'll share some with you.

"Out of suffering have emerged the strongest of souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars."

"Sadness is but a wall between two gardens."

"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine -- and shadows will fall behind you."

"All the art of living is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on."

I really hope I have helped you in some small way. Good luck on your journey. My love is with you!

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