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Jun 06, 2011
 Josephine:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Don't "hate yourself"...you did the best you could with the information you had. You were a child, for goodness sake. Ease up on yourself. There is no shame or guilt being the victim of sexual abuse. Shame and guilt falls solely on the shoulders of the offender because the offender chose to offend. Your father took advantage of you and your sister's vulnerabilities, and he did so in a criminal way. He deserves prison for that.

As for having him charged, there is never any guarantee that the outcome of a trial will turn out the way we want it to. There is always risk that it won't. There is risk that both you and your sister will feel re-victimized as his lawyer uses whatever defense he or she deems will best work for your father; that's their job. But you can't take that personally. You must understand that when it comes to court, lawyers are there to protect the interests of their clients, not seek justice for victims, even when their clients are guilty. But you must go into this with your eyes wide open, and realize that the justice system is about being able to prove the charges against a person. The fact that BOTH you and your sister are coming forward bodes well, much more so than just one of you. And just for the record, I'll say that you are being very courageous (just as your sister is), and that you're being a compassionate, caring and loving sister. You have much to be proud of, Josephine. Lean on each other through this very difficult time. And find other support systems for yourselves as well. This process, as much as your sister needs it (and you too), could easily trigger her back to her old ways of coping. Stay strong in the knowledge that what you're doing together is right, and that you may well be saving other little girls from being abused by him in the future. In fact, there may well be other victims, perhaps other family members. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jun 09, 2011
 Be Brave: Be strong. Tell on HIM:: Don't let him hurt another child
by: maurice

Josephine great you found Darlene's safe place to move forward in your life as well as to be a support for your sister in all your planning together to do: It takes courage: stand by each other: stand with each other as loving, caring, siblings wanting to rid the world of a bad, bad man (your father) from abusing another innocetn: Please read over, and over Darlene's loving, caring, encourageing affirming words to you: You'll be strong: you'll do what you know to be the best for you and your sister: Then hopefully you will be safeguarding other beautiful innocent vunerable chldren from this mans beastly actions: It would be great if you and your sister could begin to having a healthy mind in a healthy body together: With your encouragemnet I am certain that could happen: Take part with like-minded women your own age in team sports or sporting and cultural activities: It will make a huge difference to you both: Team sports are great: they help build team work: togetherness: support and natural and true friends are made for life: Josephine you are the very best: Good on you for sharing your story on Darlene's site: She has given you a comment of love from her woman's heart to yours: heed her words and all will go well for you and your sister:

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