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May 06, 2011
 Jess:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Therapy can only work when you are honest and forthcoming with all that is troubling you. If you hold back, you do it at the expense of healing. You said that you are now sharing stuff on this site that you've never before shared. When you keep this from your therapist, you do your SELF a disservice. You want to know how to heal from all this, but what I think you're really saying is you want to know how you can forget all this and be out of pain. The truth is, you won't forget. Forgetting isn't part of the human experience for most. What is most important is allowing yourself to feel all the emotions attached to what happened to you—and I mean really feel each and every emotion fully—in a safe environment with the knowledge that you are now no longer in danger of being sexually abused by either of these pedophiles. You are likely trying to avoid these emotions in an effort to stop the pain. But I can tell you from experience that this only prolongs the pain, and in fact it makes the pain worse. As for your husband, he was insensitive asking you that question. His insensitivity stems from a lack of understanding. Now you're left feeling betrayed by him as a result. But within your story, you yourself question this. Please open up to your therapist/counsellor about this and about all that you've endured. You deserve that kind of help, and your children deserve a mother who is healthy and fully present for them.

I will also suggest you look into Byron Katie's work. Her book, Loving What Is might help you with the truth of your thoughts. Her work is about questioning our thoughts, which can most definitely lead to healing. Thank you for sharing more of your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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Jun 11, 2011
 Don't give up
by: BMW Princess

If you kill yourself the "person" who hurt you wins. If you live you'ere telling him/her **** you! I'm better than you.

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