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Jan 08, 2011
 Jennifer:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm glad you're now in a safe place and that you were finally removed from such a horrific environment. I do hope you have or will consider entering into some form of counseling in order to deal with the effects of enduring what you endured. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 08, 2011
 teacher, kids
by: My Two Cents

Jennifer, it's horrid that your mom was able to do this to you.
I was very glad to read about the teacher who reported your disclosure and later adopted you - usually, abuse doesn't get reported, judging from these stories, even when people should "know" something is wrong. I really wish that people had realized earlier that something might be wrong.

Be well.

My Two Cents.
Jan 08, 2011
 Not your fault
by: Anonymous

Jennifer, what your so-called mom did to you was pathetic and ungrateful because she was twisted, confused, sick and sadistic in her own ways of thinking. She didn't deserve to have such beautiful, wonderful children like you and your brother...but, most of all, you didn't deserve to have such an uncaring, uneducated, unloving, ignorant, barbaric, cruel, psychopathic, sociopathic, sadistic mother. Oh, and your dad's death will never be your fault; [Your mother] had all the power and she only misused that power over you. Oh, and I'm delighted that you told and that the teacher took you in because he is so sweet for doing that...I just hope that your sicko of a mother will go to the mental hospital for all those terrible crimes that she committed against you and your brother because you guys did nothing wrong. I'm also glad that your husband is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that!
Jan 09, 2011
 kids....
by: My Two Cents

Jennifer, I meant to comment on the having children issue in my original comment.

The concern that you might do to your kids is a valid one, well, I was raised that way, so that must be what I am supposed to do, etc. However, the fact that you are already concerned about this leads me to believe that you won't cross any lines.
Also, it is a MYTH that all (or X number of) victims/survivors of abuse will go on to abuse children. I am sure that some do, just like people who have never been abused abuse children. Human nature is so complicated that it is impossible to break it down into nice, neat little packages.

I hope you don't let what happened to you in childhood determine whether or not you go on to play a role in a child's life - bio mom, foster mom, adoptive mom, or step mom, for example.

Be well.

My Two Cents.
Jan 09, 2011
 I am very special: I am highly gifted: Always Believe in Yourself
by: m

Jennifer: I liked these words of yours which empowered you: Always believe in yourself:
I quote you: I live din this hell hole until I was sixteen: I confided in a teacher who called the police: Cared for me even took me in and had a daughter my age: Now living with a man I love: Can't have children: Concerned if I had kids cycle would repeat itself: I could never hurt a child: Jennifer say I am Special: I am a very gifted young woman: You'll be fine: You'll be a winner over that horrendous cruel mother: You come accross as most motherly and I am certain you would love any child you were gifted with: Darlene sure gave you loving encourageing words to continue living your life to the full with the man you love: Counselling will progress your healing and put alot of what you wrote into perspective for you: Annonymous and my two cents gave you great hope and love in their comments; This site is a safe haven to grow and learn from: Darlene's comment is from her woman's heart to you: Heed it: then know all her many visitors who read your story empatise with you in all the pain of abuse you endured: Stay Safe: Be safe; Have ahealthy mind in a healthy body: Be active and alive with like-minded women your own age taking part in sporting and cultural activities: You'll make real friends for life with numerous aquaintances who will cheer you up each time you cross paths: Have 1--2 real friends (female) as well as your Male friend: A true friend is a jewel: you met one in that teacher: good on you for being so brave to tell him:
Jan 09, 2011
 Jennifer
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry your story Jennifer we can never understand why a parent especially a Mother can hurt their children. Your father must have had his own problems to have done what he did which does not excuse his behavior!
I am happy that you are in a loving caring relationship. Your teacher sounds like he was a wonderful caring person, I am so glad for your sake that you were able to open up to him.
Jennifer I would encourage you to accept ongoing therapy because the life you led will leave it's scars. As a survivor myself I know how important ongoing therapy is....talking about what happened over and over again and again is a positive means to becoming free from the past. It is not easy and will ou were a not take overnight but you sound like a strong young lady with alot of insight.
And Jennifer always be kind to yourself and never never blame your self for what happened, none of it as your fault even though your mother tried her very best at throwing the blame from her self onto you.
I wish you Peace, Healing and Freedom:}
Jan 12, 2011
 Jennifer
by: Anonymous

Good news. I just found out that I am pregnant. I have been in counseling and my therapist says that I am ready for this step. I cannot wait to hold my precious baby in my arms and to give her all the love that I never got.
Mar 20, 2011
 you'll be a great mom
by: Anonymous

congratulations!! you will be a wonderful mom!!
Mar 20, 2011
 a mother's heart: A mother's prayer: you'll be a great MoM
by: maurice

Jennifer: I truly believe you'll be the best mother ever: You'll love and cherish that precious Gift: Great your therapist believes you are ready to be that wonderful Mom; DARLENE SURE GAVE YOU TRUE BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU HAVE TO BE VERY PROUD OF YOURSELF: My prayers are with: your the best, you are a winner, stay healthy stay having a healthy mind in a healthy body.

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