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Jan 01, 2013
 Janelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You answered your own doubts. You said that what was done to you you would never do to your own kids; that in and of itself says volumes about what you lived through. What you were exposed to WAS abuse. Witnessing spousal abuse is a form of emotional abuse. So is witnessing another family member, like your brother, being abused. And witnessing can be in the form of seeing it, hearing it, or just knowing it's going on. As for hitting, kicking or punching, that is NEVER discipline.

When young siblings argue and fight, as long as there isn't a power differential, it's not considered abuse. But each case is decided on its own merits. But what I will say is that your mother was negligent, which is abuse, by not stopping the fights. When you became an adult, your brother was no longer an abuser as much as he was an assaulter. He had no right to strike you, and never has had that right. You however, always have the right to register a complaint with the authorities when someone assaults you. As for your mother sending you overseas to become a prostitute, of course that's abuse. Sexual exploitation of a child is ALWAYS abuse. And there are serious laws against it. Distancing your Self from these clearly twisted people, regardless if they're your family, is something one does for self preservation. Do what you must in order to bring healing and peace into your life, as well as to ensure the safety of your children. Please seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with what you lived through. It would be a very self-loving thing to do. I send you love, light and healing energy, Janelle. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 02, 2013
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From Darlene - Webmaster: Janelle, and my other visitors to this thread, I've deleted comments from a commenter who leaves posts that are judgmental and wholly inappropriate. I cannot block her, but I'll continue to delete her comments before they ever go live on the site.

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