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Aug 09, 2008
 You have MUCH to be proud of...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jacqueline, it was completely natural for you as a child, a victim of brutal, cruel, even criminal abuse, to have felt scared, shameful and embarrassed. Of course you would believe what you were being told; you were a child; a vulnerable, waiting-to-be-shaped, precious child; a child who had the terrible misfortune of having a father who beat and berated you instead of loving and nurturing you and treating you with the respect and dignity you so deserved.

You are an incredibly strong woman, Jacqueline. A woman who, despite the vicious abuse you had to endure at the hands of a vile father, managed to ensure your own daughter did not suffer the same fate. Do you not realize how remarkable that makes you? Do you not realize how strong that makes you? Do you not realize how powerful that makes you? That's how I see you, Jacqueline; that's how you should see yourself. Your never-ending story HAS an end; it ended when you stopped the cycle of abuse.

I can understand reverting back to that scared and helpless little girl; it used to happen to me, but no longer, not since therapy in my twenties. Don't ever chastise yourself for being transported back to such a state. Consider it a natural progression, a stepping stone of sorts. The fact that you are aware of this "regression" is huge, Jacqueline. Rest assured, as you gain more perspective about who and what you are now as an adult and as a mother and as a contributing member of society, and in turn, as you gain more understanding about the true nature of your father and his "disownment" (in a word, cowardice); you WILL hold your head up high with pride and conviction. You've already lived through the worst of it, AND have gone on to make a life for yourself and your precious daughter. Don't lose sight of that tremendous achievement. Don't sell yourself short. You (and your brothers) weren't a "mistake"; you're all a "miracle." I have faith that you will overcome the residual of your past even further. Therapy truly helped me. Perhaps you can have the same success with some form of counselling.

I thank you for the message to my younger visitors to disclose, Jacqueline. They need to hear it from many sources.

P.S. I received your email about the problems you were having with an error message when you were trying to include your email address. I thank you for bringing it to my attention, and I apologize for the inconvenience it caused you. I too was experiencing difficulties on that day. I have reported these error messages to the company that hosts my site. Hopefully, they have now been rectified.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 09, 2008
 Jacqueline:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I just re-read the email you sent me...it seems I misunderstood the difficulty you were having. The automated verification and notification system is tied into the email of the person submitting their contribution. In other words, there was no system error on that day, as it related to what you were trying to do. Using your husband's email address was perfectly acceptable, as long as it was okay with him.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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