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Feb 28, 2014
 Glenn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What your uncle did to you was vile. And he deserved to go to prison for the rest of his life for it. You showed great courage telling your father. And the fact that he got any prison time at all is remarkable given the way the legal system operates. Your father believed you when you told. THAT was paramount to your healing. And now you get to choose whether or not you actually do get "life". Yes, the memories are still there. Yes, there are residual effects. And yes, you still respond to the emotions attached to what happened to you. But "life"? That can only happen if you choose it. If you continue to give away your power to a pedophile you, then indeed you have gotten "life". Take back your power, Glenn. You have it in you. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 28, 2014
 response to glenn
by: Anonymous

I had a brother who made me swallow his semen. I know what you mean by "life"... he is a grandfather and i never had children at all. I became promiscuous. Noone ever heard my story from me til I turned 60. By then, 53 years had passed... but I read good books about sexual abuse like "Stolen Tomorrows" by Steve Levenkron. He says that a measure of how much damage was done is how long it takes for you to talk about it. It took me 53 years to confront my abuser.
So I get what you mean by Life. I had a TON of therapy, too, mostly bad therapy. I was a thyroid patient who needed to be on thyroid to get my mind back on straight.
I appreciate that you wrote on this website, Glenn. It does help heal. Talking about it is helpful too. I go to Incest Survivors sometimes, too.
Take good care of yourself. You were innocent, Glenn. Reach for that light, and you will help yourself. I try to see myself as I was when the abuse happened. I wanted to RUN out of the room so badly. But I was stunned into staying. Like a deer in headlights.

I hope you feel better and better.
Mar 01, 2014
 Dear Glen
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry that happened to you. If I could hug the innocent child that you were, I would.

I had to pass through incest, without the backing that your father gave you, and it destroyed my life.

I was finally able to face it with a therapist and went to an incest survivors group for a long time. They were very helpful.

I have the mixed blessing of being a recovering alcoholic, and I have learned to let go of shame through the support that I get at meetings, so I recommend that you find a S-Anon meeting to go to.

You sound like a nice man. I wish you serenity.
Mar 01, 2014
 Additional info
by: Glenn

Although my uncle do go to prison for 2 years . My parents refused to discuss what had transpired & did not provide me with any form a counselling. As I grew into a teenager i was obviously confused , angry & emotionally damaged when I begun to be a difficult teenager & rebel my father told me ( at the care of 15 ) I was no longer welcome to live in the family home. From age 15 to age 18 I lived in a Homeless shelter. I did not speak to my father from that day onward. he died several years ago. I have many regrets , I try to not look back only forward , I can't help but wonder sometimes what path my life would have taken had my uncle not raped me repeatedly.
Mar 04, 2014
 Glenn,
by: AnonymousT

We are certainly shaped by our trauma's and same sex abusers can certainly confuse our sexuality.

But you're an adult now and you have the power to search for counseling, answers, and healing. The Courage To Heal is a wonderful book, I recommend it.

Whether you're heterosexual or bisexual I urge you to fully explore what this means to you. Where you feel safe, where you feel attractive, where you feel your best. I personally feel that when we know who/what we are, we can find happiness easier.

T

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