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Jun 24, 2008
 Loss of innocence, trust and sanctuary...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Gina, you said you've never before told the whole story. Allow me to be the first one to tell you, you did nothing wrong. You are trapped in the guilt and shame of a choice you made as an 11-year-old, an 11-year-old who trusted and reached out to her grandfather by sitting on his lap. Even if it's only on a subconscious level, you are applying adult values to a choice you made as a child. Gina, you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. NOTHING. Period. End of story. Don't ever let anyone tell you any different.

As for the adult women in your family...WHY WHY WHY, indeed! It is inexcusable that your mother and aunt were so negligent. Neither of them protected you or your cousin from a man they KNEW was a molester. By choosing not to act, they enabled the sexual assaults. They have much to answer for.

You should be very proud that you did not repeat this cycle. You protected, and continue to protect, your precious daughter.

I hope that sending your grandfather that letter has given you some type of closure, Gina, some semblance of peace. Writing such a letter can be extremely cathartic. And I believe you did the right thing by writing to your grandfather's wife to warn her. Let's hope she has the wherewithal to protect her grandkids; wherewithal that other members of your family did not have.

And Gina, I'm delighted to learn that you now have a good relationship with your father. I'm even more delighted that he has learned from the mistakes he made with his children and is choosing to be an active and positive influence in the lives of his grandchildren.

You mentioned therapists...I don't know if you are still in therapy or not. The degree of your disclosure here I see as a milestone, Gina. Perhaps revisiting this with a therapist can help you come to terms with the guilt and shame you still feel; guilt and shame that isn't yours to bear.

I thank you for sharing your story with my visitors. Not only will it help those who have been in similar situations as you have, but it also serves as an obligatory reminder for parents to keep their children safe. Very few sexual predators are strangers. The overwhelming majority of them are family and friends. This is a message that must be driven home if we have any hope of protecting our children.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Jun 27, 2008
 AMAZING
by: Gabriela

Gina you are AMAZING, similar things happened to me when i was younger although I learnt to repress most of the memories, but as i got older I couldnt stop them. I hope you and your family are always together, protected and happy, u deserve to be happy. U are right though God will be waiting and he will be dealt with.
Gina you are amazing and I wish you all the best.

Gabriela

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