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May 07, 2009
 Part 1: Neglected...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your story points to neglect, Gaielle. Your basic needs weren't met. Instead, you were required to work for your parents and/or care for them; they exploited and ignored you and your needs.

While they neglected you in a variety of ways, it would be remiss of me if I didn't point out that they also neglected your sisters. They may well have provided them with more than they gave you, Gaielle, but they did not supervise them, and their drinking and partying ways taught at least one of your sister's that it was appropriate, she even followed in their footsteps. From what you said, your father even took one of them along to party when she was a teen. Your sister was promiscuous for a reason. Your parents abused all of you. That does not take away from what happened to you. What it might do however is allow you to see things differently. I'm not making excuses for their behaviour as adults; what I am saying is that there are explanations for it. And there are explanations for the way in which your sisters treated you when you were children, just as there are reasons for the way you treated them. I realize this may seem ridiculous to you, especially when you consider that your one sisters was the "queen" of every aspect of her life and was "favoured" by your parents. But she was also taught by your parents to treat you poorly; that is a form of emotional abuse.

If you've been reading any of the other stories on this site and my accompanying comments, you may have already read the article I wrote for my site titled Why Parents Target a Specific Child for Abuse. If not, I suggest you read it, because even though you and your siblings were abused in one way or another, your parents did single you out neglectfully.

See Part 2: Choices and a number to call... below.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
May 07, 2009
 Part 2: Choices and a number to call...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

As a child, Gaielle, you had no say in what was happening to you. You had no choices. As an adult, you DO. Treat yourself with the dignity and respect you deserve, the dignity and respect you never received from your parents...don't wait until the end of the year to get out of your abusive relationship. Get out now! You're worthy of so much more, but if you don't believe that, you will never make healthy choices for yourself.

What happened to you as a child happened; there is nothing you can do to change that. You are now a grown woman. You now have the power you didn't have as a child. If you choose to blame your family for the choices you make now, you will never make better choices for yourself as an adult. I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counselling, Gaielle, in order to deal with the emotional residue of what you grew up with. Contact your local woman's shelter to find out what resources are available to you. Better yet, given the circumstances you live in with your husband, I suggest you contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. There are people out there who want to help, but you must reach out to them for that help to come your way.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Gaielle. I wish you all the best in your future.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
May 07, 2009
 Good on you for divorcing
by: Francine

Gaielle, good on you for going for a divorce against a twisted excuse for a soon-to-be ex-husband cuz you don't deserve to be mistreated in any way. As for your mother putting your cats to sleep, that's inhumane. Oh, and your parents actually taught your sister to treat you badly and to call you a "brat", I suppose. You and your sister might want to try counselling cuz you are worth the help that you deserve.
May 08, 2009
 Great you released so much, I know you feel better having done so in a safe place.
by: Maurice

Gaielle S. so much of your past let go of by telling it to Darlene and her many visitors who do feel in a real and meaningful way for each other having gone through the pain of abuse themselves. Gaielle S you certainly are very articulate to detail in all you've come through in your life especially your childhood years. Your Parent's were self-centered individuals just caring all about themselves and being hail fellow well met with all the not so nice people where you lived. Responsibility of being in charge of the motel at 7/8 years of age was dangerous and far too much to ask you to do. You were disowned by them as parents from then on, Your Sister whom I could understand your dislike for because of all the attention she received. Be brave now and get away from that controlling husband/so called. Devorce him but choose better the next time. You need alot of real love in your life now and to be loved. Begin to LOVE yourself and make a sense of it then you will choose better next time. Begin to love your body , care for it don't neglect it by abusing it with alcohol/drugs. Be nice to it, soothe it with nice creams. Get a life for yourself NOW. You've been through too much, Make a new beginning Today. Say I can, I will, I must for my onw peace of mind and happiness. Gaielle S Say I'M SPECIAL AND BEGIN TO BELIEVE IT. Darlene has given you all the loving ways in how to begin.

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