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Sep 26, 2007
 You already are helping others
by: Darlene Barriere

Sharing what you lived through, how it affected you as a girl, and how it affects you still as a 48-year-old woman is mighty powerful, Flo. Powerful for you in the healing process because you refuse to continue to keep everything inside; powerful for survivors who won't feel so all alone now that they know that someone else has gone through something similar; powerful for parents with young children who might realize that the way they parent needs to be re-thought.

We are about the same age, Flo. And though our stories are different, in many ways they are the same. I credit therapy for saving me in my twenties, but I also adopted a philosophy that virtually changed my life. I made up my mind to not let another day go by where my mother (or father) would control me and what I did or thought. I decided that my parents, even though we were estranged, would not continue to rule how I conducted my life. I took back my power by refusing to let the emotional luggage drag me down. I forced myself to see the bright side of everything. I started mentally re-writing the negative messages that were given to me into positive ones. My mother referred to me as "lardass" and "ugly", so I sympathize with how belittled and humiliated you felt being called "Bucky Beaver". In the end, Flo, you did what I did: you got your teeth fixed; I got fit. You now see your teeth as pretty; I now see myself as attractive. You've already applied this philosophy in your life once, you can apply it again, one negative message at a time. Stay positive, Flo. You'll find it life-altering.
Sep 26, 2007
 unbelievable
by: Steph

The healing process can be slow but thank goodness you are working on the recovery process. Keep it up! Isn't it a wonder that the people who are supposed to help don't have a clue. I think helping agencies and such should have rigorous training on the signs and clues of abuse beyond "physical evidence." So much more pain and suffering comes from neglect and emotional torture. In the realm of abuse this seems to be minimized or no one wants to touch it-physical abuse effects are so much more concrete. Good luck to you...
Sep 26, 2007
 I Feel Your Pain
by: Francine

Flo, I feel you and I am absolutely devastated that your mother had to hurt you as a little kid. My mother always referred to me as "Cow", "Scavenger", "Germ", "Low-life", "Stupid", "Retarded", "Vile", "Ugly", "Nerd", "Loser", "Poo-poo Head", etc. and I'm so sorry about what you went trhough because I've been through the same ordeal as you did. I'm so so so so sorry and I will pray for you every night (and whoever will be next). God bless you, Flo. Peace.
Sep 26, 2007
 I know how you feel ):
by: Kelsey

I posted up my story a while ago. You just need to hang tight. Lots of times though, I just want to die. Sometimes I'll just feel like I fell into a pit of darkness with all sorts of objects that I could use. But I'm just too afraid to die and if I'm bored, I'll fantasize(sp?) about committing suicide. Its twisted yeah, but you just got to hang tight, and try--no do recover because your free; you deserve to have happiness.
Oct 01, 2007
 very good
by: suresh

Hie Well at that particular age it is bad for your mom to do something bad like that and when she is doing this then it is good that she must have some feelings towards to the own child and not just letting it to happen when this occur then it is something bad too of her calling you names and just making fun of you whenever she have locked you in the back room and when this happen then it is also bad for her of not giving you food and also other stuff and when she have send you to a school of reductly of hitting you and so on then it is good for you to lodge a police complain, but since now you are happy of joining this group then it is good for you. So all the best to you.
Oct 09, 2007
 god bless
by: Anonymous

you are loved by many. Your family has major issues and unfortunately you were raised in that. THere is evil in this world just like there is good. I just pray for all children everyday and hope to the dear lord that he protects them. Even at 48 still you suffer. You didn't deserve that. I'm sorry.
Feb 23, 2009
 Much love to you.
by: Anonymous

I too know how deep and lasting the scars of child abuse can be. Remember that your mother was likely severely abused as well - this by no means is meant to excuse her behavior - she had a choice (just like you have a choice) to continue the cycle of abuse or continue to inflict pain upon subsequent generations, she obviously chose the latter. You however should gain a tremendous amount of strength knowing that you are the first person in probably a very long line of abused/abusers to recognize that you deserve and want more for your life. You single handedly have ended the cycle. Bravo to you for your immense bravery. I am in the same situation as you. I was abused by my father sexually, emotionally and physically. It wasn't until I was 25 that I stopped having him in my life. I am sending you lot's of love and strength. Know that you are not alone in this pain. What helps for me is to try to stay in the present moment and try not to get bogged down by the persistent memories that continually pop up in your mind. They are but clouds - temporary and fleeting. Thanks for sharing your story. :) Much love to you...

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