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Jun 05, 2010
 Eva:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I applaud that you recognize you need help. I understand what it's like to not have insurance in order to get that help. I suggest you go through the hundreds and hundreds of pages of my site and read through the comments I've left for contributors over the years. In particular, the years 2008 and 2009. You'll find them at the following URL: Archived Child Abuse Stories. Perhaps you'll find the strength you're looking for in those comments. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Jun 06, 2010
 Keep reminding yourself
by: Mike

Professional help can make a huge difference, but sometimes we can't afford it, so we have to do the best we can without their help. Like Darlene said, read the stories here and some of them will help. The stories, and the replies and advice, sometimes help us fight the past and start a new future.

I think the biggest thing that makes it hard to move on is putting the blame or guilt on ourselves. If you can, print these lines out in big letters and put the page somewhere you will see frequently.

The abuse was not my fault.
I did nothing wrong.
I am not guilty of anything.
I did not deserve the abuse.
It is finished.

It can take a while to convince ourselves that those statements are true, but once we believe them, life moves on.
Jun 18, 2010
 GUILT - always the result of what someone else did to you
by: Lucy

I don't know why those who were victimized have to deal with guilt, but it always seems to be the case. You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You were victimized. He knew better than to do what he did, and chose to do it anyway. Then, the people who were supposed to help you did more harm, and deep down they knew it was wrong.

You are a strong person. You survived, you told, and you are seeking help. You have to be strong to do those things.

You can watch other people and how they deal with situations, and learn from them. You can learn from reading, reading and more reading. One of the self help books I got a lot from was about personal boundaries. If you can't afford the books, you can get a lot of information free from the internet. Learning about yourself and what your strong points are helps so much with self esteem. Always striving to improve yourself and finding supportive friends helps a lot. Also, I now Maurice responds to a lot of contributors with this information, exercise. It helps the mind and body be strong. It increases endorphines in the body. Feeling strong mentally and physically is important.

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