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Apr 13, 2011
 Emily:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You could not be more mistaken. No matter what, what this pedophile did to you will never be your fault, and it will never be your fault if he goes on to sexually abuse another child. Fault is ALWAYS on the shoulders of the offender because the offender CHOOSES to offend. Always remember that. And you didn't fail at anything. The system failed YOU. Would things have been different if you had told before; you'll never know for sure, because you don't know what you don't know. And to beat yourself up for the decisions you made as a little girl, a vulnerable little girl, is absurd. You were a LITTLE GIRL, Emily. You did what you thought you had to do in order to stay as safe as you could. When you knew to do something else, you did. You went the distance, which took so much courage. I'm SO proud of you for what you did to protect yourself (and others), at ALL ages. Love yourself for the beautiful person that you are, Emily, because you ARE a beautiful person. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 13, 2011
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Emily, you were given a raw deal because your mom and that monster of a stepdad are so twisted that they don't even know how to taker care of themselves, let alone be parents to you. You certainly deserve so much better than what those inhumane brutes did to you. Oh, and shame on the system for running away from you all the time instead of locking up that sick beast of a stepdad for all those terrible crimes that he committed against you. I know what it's like to grow up in such a world where the so many people are greedy and uncaring and even almost as evil as those beasts who should've known better and loved and cherished you. As for your mom, I am just as disgusted by her reaction towards you trying to turn to her for help and even throwing you down the stairs for telling her on that beast; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. Oh, and you're not to blame for their sadistic behavior; they are to blame because they chose to offend and abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and they only misused that power over you. Oh, and please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. You can also try talking to your dad about it.
Apr 14, 2011
 If it happens to someone else....
by: AnonymousT

it will NOT be your fault. It would then be the systems fault for not putting him away the first time. They needed evidence & sometimes it's a hard thing to prove. This is not your fault, it's simply the circumstances of the case.

You keep saying no one cared. People here care. Advocates on hotlines care. People care.

You have survived & soon, someday you will thrive. Your life is not done, you have a lot to do & experience & heal & grow.
Apr 14, 2011
 No one has the right:: nothing excuses:
by: maurice

Emily: you are one very brave girl: Doing your best to protect yourself from these sicko's: Please Emily take into your heart what Darlene has so lovingly said to you: Believe in her words, they are loving, they are affirming, they are a womans heart for a little girl who was abused: You be strong: You have a caring nature, you don't want to happen to another little girl/adolecent what that beast did to you: Surround yourself with a few real people: Friends: I am sure you have one or two apecial friends your own age and gender: You can trust with your intimate stuff and feelings: Let them be your hope for a brighter future: You be a winner: You will be like Darlene herself who turned her pain into empowering all of her visitors to her great safe haven site: I am so proud of you for searching for and finding her site: Her words to you are for you Emily personally: She values, respects and hears the cry of the abused who write the trth about what happened them in abuse: The God that I believe in is the one my mother believed in and I believe this God crossed your journey through life with this side and his special Angel and visionary: This site has begun for many a healing and a recovery from the effects and trauma of abuse: We have many here who were abused similairly to ourselves who we can empatise with: That for me is a true blessing for each of us: Sadly many hid behind their Faith to use and abuse children: Parents/guardians/church people of trust coaches of teams etc: Bad, bad, people: Sadly too Emily as was in your case those who were appointed to protect children took the side of the abuser: Very worrying, very wrong: Emily begin to live well: Laugh alot and love much: Be gentle and kind to yourself: Hi take special care of that beautiful body of yours: take a loving ownership of it: It belongs to you and you have to live with it so hug and cuddle into it: rub beautiful scemted oils creams into it from time to time: Emily I get the feeeling you are a young woman so I am asking you to think about having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Get out there with your own age and gender taking part in Team Sports: sporting and cultural activities with your friends/fellow students/ likeminded people your own age and gender: you'll know the difference in a short time: MY MOTTO WILL BE: I will: I can: I must: good on you Emily: Hi I am not asking for my good: get my message:

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