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Feb 10, 2012
 Elisa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were both physically and I believe sexually abused by your uncle. The fact that he laughed during this beating and that he prolonged it and that he intended to hurt and harm you is nothing short of torturous. He truly is a sick and twisted excuse of a human being. And now you're left with the severe repercussions. He not only harmed you with those beatings, he impacted you on a sexual level. It's not uncommon for children and adolescents to fantasize as you do after going through such a traumatic, humiliating and physically brutal experience. The sexual organs are connected to the nerve endings of the backside. Not to mention the fear you felt would have also been within the genitalia. All this can and does leave sexual imprinting. This is yet another reason that physical punishment for children is so inappropriate. You can take back your life, Elisa. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with all the trauma. The fact that you still fantasize about killing him is actually killing you. In other words, he continues to hold power and control over you. You don't deserve that any more than you deserved that torture during that summer. No one was there for you during that desperate time. But someone is there for you now: YOU. Reach out for the help you need, Elisa. You didn't deserve to be brutally abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy.

Please not, Elisa, that I combined both Parts 1 & 2 of your story above. I have not yet read the next part to your story, but will post it in the next day or so as Part 2.

And just for the record, I most definitely DO relate to the kind of beating you received.

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Feb 11, 2012
 I can relate
by: Scott 1

Hi Elisa

what misery and abuse. We long to hear someone say that what happened to us was wrong and the person who did the abusing admit to your face that what they did was wrong. But sadly, I found that doesnt happen often.

I was physically punished as a child though not to the extent you and Darlene were as children. All of us in our lives deal with things in different ways and endured different levels of abuse. I personally dont like saying that my story isnt as bad as others because it sounds like Im downplaying the effects that the abuse has on a person. I dont want to minimize things.

With that said all I can say is that I understand some of what you went through and are going through. My "punishments" were mired in ritual and imprinted firmly into my brain through shaming and humiliation. Waiting in the corner before and after. Other children allowed and even forced to watch. The anger and stress. The fear and anxiety and just wanting to flee, to escape but it was an escape into my mind where I found refuge. The pain and the trying not to cry but failing, again all this while others watched.

Sexual part I would have to say was me on her knee as you descibed having to sit on that excuse of a mans knee. This was..well..I dont really have words to descibe the feeligs I was experiencing while she did her buisiness. But it was sexual. Back to the corner for more shaming. See the point is these people enjoy this, if they didnt they would avoid it.

Darlene can also relate to my experiences in the classroom in that my clothes came off for another round of lets see how much it takes to make him cry, lets see what it takes to break him! The level of pain increased on the trip for a private session from her. That was the leather weapon you described, tearing across my flesh as I faded out of realiity only to later reappear elswhere with no idea how I got there. Ho hum. I began masterbation to this at 9 or 10. Again I can relate. The smells and sounds took years to dissapate for me.

Like you I was sent to someon to punish me as she saw fit. To do with me as she pleased. Straighten me out. My own parents betrayed,sent me to that, and didnt try to move me or stop it even after she contacted the house to give them an update.

Did they enjoy it? My answer is yes. Will they apologize? I'm not holding my breath. It leaves us with why?
Feb 11, 2012
 To Scott 1
by: Scott 1

From Darlene - Webmaster: Scott, I really do appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, but I do not permit inclusions of website URLs because I then have to screen each one and determine that it's appropriate for this site. I just don't have the time it takes to do so on each URL that is provided by visitors, but also because of the complicated system in place with search engines that penalize sites for certain types of links. I do thank you for your encouragement here and for being so concerned about Elisa's (and others') well-being. You are such a kind heart. Thank you for your understanding.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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