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Jan 17, 2012
 Don:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is NOT "too late" and your life is NOT "ruined". Those are words your ego uses to convince your Self of something that simply isn't so. Your life isn't meeting your expectations, but that's a far cry from being "ruined". So now is the time to change your expectations. There has never been a better time to drop into your heart to find and feel the truth of Who You Really Are. What happened to you, what you were forced to endure at the hands of the people who were in charge of keeping you safe from harm, and what you were forced to endure at the hands of so many others, was nothing short of inhumane. You were targeted for abuse. If you haven't already, consider reading my article on this site titled Why parents target a specific child for abuse for some possible explanations as to why you were singled out. They aren't excuses, just likely explanations. You are not the lies you were told and believed growing up. Always remember that what you lived is not Who You Really Are, Don. Who You Really Are goes so much deeper than that.

While I generally suggest visitors seek out some form of counselling or therapy, I won't do so in your situation given what you endured at the hands of so-called professionals in the field, but will leave it to you to decide for your Self. I will suggest you look into the work of Byron Katie; just keep an open mind to the process. I send you love, light and positive energy, Don. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 17, 2012
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Don, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a mother and allow her to beat and berate you 24/7...how dare he! That's not even discipline; that's just torture and I'm sure that your so-called mom is a helpless bully who chose her sadistic gratification instead of simply helping herself. If she didn't want to be there, she should've had the courage to give you up for adoption instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that she, your dad and even the so-called professionals chose is inexcusable. I really hope that you're out of that house now. I'm sure that she's really acting like a little 1-year-old trapped in a grown woman's body because she is stuck in her own childhood. Your life shouldn't have been used as a pawn for her immature, sick, sadistic misery. Oh, and it's cruel for her to blame you just when she refuses to accept her own responsibilities. Help yourself, not her; it's up to her to finally choose to help herself/change her own dysfunctional ways. You are not to blame for her sadistic, ignorant behavior; she is to blame because she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and only misused it over you. I really hope that you're in a safe place now, that you try counselling and that you look into reporting that sadistic beast of a mother.
Jan 21, 2012
 Don
by: Rita M

Hi Don
I can understand the anger that you have.I realize that you were careful not to hurt your own children.I have gone through alot of abuse myself.There was a real terrible time that I lived my life in a rage and it poured out to others.My marriages and my motherhood were affected etc.However there comes a time when we have to take the bull by the horns and deal with it.I don't believe in medication for it or any other forms of help like shock therapy.I knew that if I went to a therapist I would have to become ugly with my anger and face it and decide what I was going to do with it.I decided for one thing and fore most I wasn't hopeless and or ruined just because I was abused.I also understood that I am no longer in the prescence of my abusers.The walls started coming down as long as I really meant it.The inner prison was destroyed and I set myself free.It doesn't just happen so quick. I felt I was worth it and knew there was hope because there are trained people around me.Abuse effects a perosn physically because they carry it around for so long. It is litterally luggage believe it or not.I have a lot more enrgy now because of the therapy.It is not so hard.I always wanted more. I'm under any circumstance no longer helpless or hopeless or ruined.My mental and physical status are where it should be.However if I feel weak I can just remember what helped me to get to where I am.I sometimes tell people PLEASE BE PATIENT WITH ME GOD IS NOT DONE.The therapist has said she hasn't done anything and that she tells me I did it all.All I want is feed back and a guide line.I got it.I strongly encourage you or anyone to stop putting road blocks up.Like a bird in a cage LET YOURSELF OUT.It's worth it.Enjoy healing.Be free. Be well.
Rita M

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