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Jan 13, 2010
 Diana:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I learned a long time ago that for me to "let all of it go" meant I needed counselling in order to put all my anger issues into perspective. When I did that and faced all the fears I had (fear always underlies anger), the rest took care of itself. Perhaps the same can work for you. Either way, your children know you have anger; it would be modeling highly appropriate behaviour for you to seek out some form of counselling to help you deal with that anger. You deserve it and so do they.

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Jan 13, 2010
 forgiveness
by: Scott Canada

Hi Diana....Darlene gives good advice.
I wanted to tell you that I know how you feel. I too have told my story here.
I was abused in school and my abuser was a teacher. About 37 years ago. All in the name of so called discipline.
Punishments, or strapping,spanking, beating, smacking or what ever you call it. Once done in a full classroom with clothing removed. I have serious anger issues and I'm still wrestling with. Trying to bury rage can be crippling. I have missing time as well. Early school years are gone with just snippets filled with embarrassment and fear. Weird huh? Don't know where the school memories are buried but their gone.
Forgiveness is for yourself they say. I find it hard to believe I HAVE to forgive. Perhaps I should thank her for what she did. Give her a hug, maybe a gift, yes a gift would be nice. And remember to smile.
Yes I'm bitter. I'm bitter at peoples cruelty to each other and to animals.
However I have witnessed goodness. I have found some good people and have a few good people in my life. Go toward the light I say, stay out of the darkness. Be kind and help those in need. I did just that over Xmas. I wish I could have done it anonymously. Its nice to see a low income family eat well and the little ones have something for Xmas under the tree. To my surprise my generosity helped them to give as well. I did not see that coming.(-: Very good for the soul. Restores a bit of my faith in people.

Forgiveness. ....I'm still working on that.

Be well and remember, You are not alone.
Jan 19, 2010
 To forgive is one thing, To make a sense of what it was worth for the other and me is difficult
by: maurice

Hi Diana, you are the best, you are very honest, the truth you have speken will free you one day. It will take a little longer, be patient with yourself, don;t be agry with yourself wanting to make an understanding why having forgiven you father is still not making real sense to you. It was a huge step forward for you but forgiveness is a two way thing. Life goes on as before if one side don't say I acknowledge I did you wrong. I abused you. That may never happen but you must get on with your life, live it to the full with your children. LIVE THE NOW TIME don't be living in the past so that you can look forward to the future in hope for yourself and your children. A better and safer journey for them other than what it was for you. I CAN: I WILL: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT AND SO ARE MY BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.

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