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Nov 15, 2010
 Deedra:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

To say that you "made out" with your brother is absurd! He sexually abused and assaulted you. This is on him, not you. Don't EVER take responsibility for what HE did TO you. None of this is your fault. NONE OF IT! At 16 your brother knew exactly what he was doing, and he took advantage of you being just 8 years old, your vulnerabilities. You couldn't possibly protect yourself from a 16-year-old. Next time you see an 8-year-old, have a good look, and then maybe you'll come to realize that you were powerless. Please seek out some form of counseling for what you endured, and for the betrayal and abandonment from your mother. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused. You deserve help now that you have. And believe me, at 22, it's highly unlikely that you have overcome this. It's highly likely that you will be dealing with the repercussions at various ages and stages of your life, unless you get the help you need. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Nov 21, 2010
 Let Today be the New Beginnings with renewed determination
by: maurice

Deedra: Please read Darlene's Comment a number of times and hug and cuddle the Love she has expressed to you from her heart to yours: You'll be fine: You are truly a strong woman: Great you told your sexual abuse story: You can be guaranteed she read your story and knew you were sincere truthful and honest in the telling: Her Comment is empowering of you but you must ACT do something so you can truly Believe in yourself: You sure are strong, you had the courage to let what happened you out which hopefully will free you to say I LOVE ME: You have given yourself all the right answers: read what you wrote: I DID NOT KNOW ANY BETTER: HE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF ME: you are one very special woman, highly intelligent and when you read Darlene's words to you,they will empower you to build up your own self Worth: Self Esteem: You were not then and you sure Ain't now either stupid: Again Darlene re-assuring words Deedra: While you were writing your stroy you were thinking of other innocent 8 year old little girls and boys: When you write: I hope others can get stronger from their bad experiences: My 16 year old brother took advantage of me: Darlene sure wants you to be totally honest in accepting that real fact: He took advantage of you: I must not blame myself: I was ever so innocent and vunerable and my brother used his power over me: Deedra let today be new beginnigs for you: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: At 22 you sure are well able to get off your bottom and get out there with your friends and like-minded peoople your own age and gender becoming active and alive taking part in sporting and cultural activities: You will know the difference while making real and natural friends for life: Team sports are great Deedra: Look in that mirror, love the me woman looking out at you: begin having a good mirror image of yourself: Think Positive: Act Positive and be positive in all you day and say about yourself: Negative attitude come easier than positive one's when we see ourselves in the mirror: I have a beautiful body: I like every part of it because it is all mine: Be gentle and kind to yourself and your body: one great big hug and cuddle of yourself: Era go on there's no one looking at you: live well: Laugh alot: Love much and make sure you start today living your life to the full each day you jump out of bed: let your motto be: I will: I can: I must because, wait for it Deedra: I AM WORTH IT: Hi Deedra: get some counselling: It will help you alot and put all that your Brother wrongly did to you in perspective: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:

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