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Oct 13, 2010
 David:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have NOTHING to be ashamed of. NOTHING AT ALL. I understand your need to speak to your birth siblings, but they'll have to be ready for it. Perhaps they're not ready just yet, but may well be in the future. Right now, you must focus on you and your daughter. I also understand your need to "forget" what happened, but remembering in the right way can help you to be powerful in your life. I strongly recommend some form of counseling to help you with this. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Oct 14, 2010
 Talk it out with someone you trust:
by: maurice

You have beeen very corageous writing your true feelings of the effects abuse had on you as a child and now years later: Darlene's site is good place to begin from: It is a safe place to move on in your life from: What do I mean? Well, David if you read Darlene's comment slowly: Take in all she is saying to you from her heart: She has spoken/written loving, encouraging words to you: You are highly intelligent: You'll understand her words: You will act on them: She knows from her own and vast experience counselling is very neccessary for one healing from the effects of abuse: You have a lovely child to be your inner strength to make the effort to get counselling: It will help you to put all that happened you into perspective: A broken home takes time for siblings to begin to relate and get to know each other again after so many years: Be patient with yoursel: Get your own mind in a good place first, you'll make sense of what Darlene has said to you re your siblings: Always believe in yourself: I will: I can: I must: because I am WORTH it; let this be your motto David: Build up love and trust with your daughter and her mother: Have a friend or two you can relate in total confidence and trust with: A good friend is a gem/jewel in one's life: David you'll be fine once you make a real sense of darlene's encouareing and loving words to you: My Motto; I will etc:
Oct 15, 2010
 David
by: Mrs. R

Hallo David, I am so sorry what happened to you, this seems to happen so much today. It was bad for you being taken out of your family home then in a new home where the family should have been caring, loving and compassionate all they did was make matters worse bu abusing you.
Unfortunatly David the pain and confusion that I belive you are feeling will not go away on its own, I would encourage you to seek out a counsellor. I sincerly hope you are not taking any blame for what happened on yourself, you were the innocent victim here, you are in no ways to blame for what happened.
I would also encourage you to look into some parenting classes this might help you to feel that you are not alone with your feelings.
It is not easy raing a child when you have not had good role models in your life. I am a survivor of many types of abuse and i have two grown up boys, I did not have good role models either but with the help of my husband, good friends and on going therapy I do not feel I have done such a bad job. But you will need to seek therapy for yourself, you need to unload all of that pain and suffering that you are no doubt carring around.
I have siblings as well but they survive in denial
I have come to terms with this and make no attempt at trying to share with them because they do not want to face what happened and I feel that it is not my job to enforce this.
Look after you and that lovely baby of yours, give your baby all the love, care and protection that you did not recieve. Take joy in raising your baby and if you feel things are getting on top of you go into another room, do some deep breathing count to 20 then start again. Be aware that you are not repeating some of the verbal behaviours that happened to you.
God Bless you David and keep safe and healthy.

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