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Mar 07, 2013
 Cry-ra:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother has serious issues, but they are HER issues, not yours. YOU can make your own choices, but it means drawing a line in the sand. You may well have to break away from your mother, at least temporarily, in order to make the choice the heal. And it IS a choice, Cry-ra. It really is. Your mother can get to you only if you allow her to. As a child you had very little power. As an adult, you need to re-claim that power. Your mother treats you as she does because you allow her to. And as long as you are dependent on her for any of your needs, she will continue her abusive ways. Only YOU can change all that, but it means taking the reins of your own life. You CAN do this. You HAVE the power, but only YOU can choose it. I learned a long time ago that when we didn't get from our parents what we needed as children, we must give it ourselves as adults. Treat your Self with the dignity, respect and love that you weren't treated with. You can't change your mother, you can only change how your respond to her. I send you love, light and healing energy, Cry-ra. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 07, 2013
 Cry-ra,
by: AnonymousT

You are an adult. It's time to take your power back. It's not hers, it's yours.

I know she beat you down & you can't see through the veil of verbal abuse....but you have to. You CAN survive without her & believe it or not, she CAN survive without you.
Sometimes, when our FOO (family of origin) is toxic, we have to say goodbye. For our own self-preservation.

It will be hard, it will be scary, you will need a therapist. But you CAN DO IT.

Let me tell you this. I too found out I was pregnant at 21, I had a shorter temper than I do now....but I cared for my child and gave her the tools she needed to succeed. Your mother failed to give you that. She kept it from you. It's yours, TAKE IT BACK.
I may have been 21 but once I had a child I gave & gave & gave. It's amazing how much love we suddenly can have. Where did it come from? It's within us. We can't see it or feel it, until something bigger than us brings it out.

Your mother was selfish. SHe did not behave as a mother. It's time for you to accept this and take back the life you want.

I'm 36, I"m just starting a career. You are YOUNG & you have your whole life ahead of you. Make it count.

T
Mar 07, 2013
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Cry-ra, your mom is deeply troubled. Oh, and as for saying things like "you should've died from leukemia!" or "I wish you were never born!", that is the worst statement a parent could make to his/her child because, to be honest, both statements send a strong message that a child is rejected, worthless and unlovable, but you're NONE of those things, Cry-ra; in fact, you're lovable; you're worthy and you're important; never believe any of her soul-crushing lies. Children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse.
Mar 07, 2013
 So little love shown...
by: Anonymous

Cry-ra, my heart goes out to you. All those years of trying to please your mom and not receiving love. I don't really know what to say...just to let you know that I read what you wrote.
Mar 08, 2013
 You are still young!
by: Anonymous

Concentrate on you, 31 is still young, you can have a happy life moving forward. Heal yourself, you can't help your Mother, but you can help yourself. You are loved, everyone who reads your story loves you and have experienced similar pain and suffering. God bless

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