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Dec 28, 2007
 Abusers rarely apologize...
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

And even when abusers DO apologize, they do so for themselves; seldom do they try to make true amends to their victims. Their apologies come with a request for forgiveness, which is all about them; it's not about the person who suffered because of their abusive ways. Abusers don't get that. Abusers don't get that the pain they inflicted is lifelong. Abusers don't get that they don't have the right to ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness comes from the heart and is freely given by the survivor, ON THEIR OWN TERMS. Forgiveness DOES NOT mean that the abuse was okay or that there will be a loving relationship. Forgiveness is given in order for the survivor to move on and in order to NOT allow the abuse to continue to control them. Congratulations on forgiving your father, Brian. You deserved to forgive him.

As for the way things went down in your teens, Brian, you were forced to defend yourself. As difficult as life would have been for you after leaving at 17 years old, it was still the healthiest thing you could have done for yourself. It showed how strong you were. And given what you've written and how you've written your story, I'd say you're still very strong. Thank you for sharing your story.
Dec 28, 2007
 Stupid Authorities
by: LLS Buffalo

Hi Brian,

I hate it when I hear people returned kids to the same shit for a different day after they are removed from an abusive home. I lived away from my mom after the authorities stepped in but was allowed to be with her for the summers. She was just sneakier then. I was more scared of her actually. She was pissed that she got caught and played the cover up game. What will it take for the authorities to change how they handle this? It would take drastic measures. They would have to run the parents rehab (if there is such a thing) like that show Big Brother where the whole house is on camera 24/7. It sucks. I'm sorry you didnt have a childhood. But he's gone and your life is all yours now thank God. I hope you don't let him ruin your life from the grave. It's hard to overcome all this. Be strong. Best wishes. My story is posted if you're interrested. You should submit a story of healing because that really helps the readers.
Dec 28, 2007
 You are so strong
by: Francine

I'm sorry about what you went through, Brian. My brother beat me up, too, and no one ever did anything about it although my parents took me away from him sometimes just because I wanted to get away from him. I know how you feel. You might want to try some counselling.
Feb 16, 2008
 BRAVE BOY
by: eelu

I say your dad treated you badly aww you poor thing.
Apr 01, 2009
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by: Anonymous?

how should i go sbout telling my story and how can i tell my parents.

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