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Dec 04, 2010
 Bella:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

People who don't understand the trauma of what happened to you are not worth considering. What happened to you was traumatic, and it was sexual abuse. As for your fears, no matter what happened, during or after being molested by those disgusting excuses for human beings, you are NOT at fault. Fault lies solely on the shoulder of the sex offenders. Always remember that. As for the healing, don't be surprised if you find yourself being revisited with emotional trauma later on as you move through various ages and stages of your life. If and when that happens, don't beat yourself up about not being "over it". Get the help you need to deal with whatever repercussions creep in. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Dec 05, 2010
 talk about bold!?
by: My Two Cents

Reading this story was really scary, Bella. Your aunt's boyfriend was incredibly bold to do this in front of other people - thankfully the female friend spoke up. I am rather surprised that she was the only one...what on earth would make the rest of them just watch??

As for it bothering you, the people in your life who say it shouldn't bother you or shrug their shoulders, these people, to be kind, probably don't know how to respond to you when you talk about this.

Of course it bothers you! An adult that you should have been able to trust betrayed you and touched you inappropriately, and he did it in front of at least two other people, one of whom actively joined in by touching you himself and the other who watched until she told them to stop. You probably thought it was ok with your age, the fact it was an adult (or older teen) doing this and the other people joining in by touching and watching.

None of those people acted appropriately that night. You never should have had this experience and one can only hope those three perverts met justice. I hope you will consider charges against all three of them at some point. They do not deserve to be walking around free after doing this to you.

Having read your story, Bella, I can see a conflicted, brave woman who struggles with the aftermath of this experience. I hope you will consider therapy/counselling to deal with the effects of this situation.

Be well.

My Two Cents.

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