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Dec 10, 2008
 This guy is probably still molesting...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Ariana, this can't be about whether or not his family judges him for what he did to you. There is every chance that this child molester is STILL sexually assaulting other little girls. Sex offenders DO NOT suddenly change their ways.

Your story illustrates all too well how important it is for parents to pay attention to their child's behaviour, and then to ask questions when that behaviour seems odd in any way. Parents need to be advocates for their children because their children cannot articulate what is happening to them; they do not have the words or the cognitive ability to do so. Your clinging behaviour was a huge red flag. Even when children do have the words and ability to tell, by then the offender has convinced them it's their fault or that child is afraid s/he will not be believed. I sense that you, Ariana, were afraid you wouldn't be believed. Your mother didn't do enough when you told her; your father was a lot more forthcoming with his suspicions. But that can't be the end of it. You need some kind of counselling. The fact that you still come into contact with this child molester puts you in a position of re-victimization. Those "chills" you referred to are not just remembrances of what he did to you, they are warnings that you may still be at risk.

I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about all this. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. Yours is a story that ALL parents can learn from.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Dec 10, 2008
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by: kierra,palite,kaderrria

***Edited as inappropriate by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***

...we are just glad it dose'nt happen anymore.
Dec 12, 2008
 thank you
by: ariana

i just want to say thank you for giving me that phone number, it really did help. The helped me realize things. Thanks Again

Note from Darlene: I moved your submission to the comments section of your story page, Ariana. I thought it would flow better here.

And you're welcome. I'm so glad you called Child Help. I make the suggest to so many, but seldom hear back. I very much appreciate that you wrote to let me know you did; thank you for that.

Take care of yourself, dear. You have the rest of your life in front of you; and I have no doubt you'll do very well. Perhaps you'll find a way to turn pain into power.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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