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Jan 24, 2012
 April:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that those adoptive parents "don't love you anymore" has NOTHING to do with you. It has everything to do with THEM. They are the ones who are sick and twisted. They are the ones who have no clue as to how much they are missing in their lives by mistreating you so badly. They are the ones who are loveless. You cannot take this on, April. I know how terrible it is to realize and believe that the people who are responsible for you and are in charge of making sure you're kept safe from harm hate you, if only by their actions. But it really is a reflection on them, not you. You've been betrayed and abandoned by so many people in your young life, but don't give up on your Self. You ARE worthy of dignity and respect and love. And you WILL find it, but first you must remember that you ARE lovable and worthy. Treat your Self better than anyone ever has, April. KNOW that you are a beautiful person. KNOW that the messages these people (and I use the term loosely) are sending you are lies, all lies. Seek out some form of counselling or therapy, if that's at all possible. If you no longer have a case worker, contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

You really are such a lovely person, April. Always remember that. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jan 24, 2012
 love to give
by: Scott 1

Hi April

I want express my gratitude to you for the honesty youve expressed in your story, the courage to open up and share. I thank you for the involvment and courage you have, in taking care of pets. Ive seen too many a good people who are ignorant of even an animals basic needs, its hard to believe they bear children. You have shown that you have a warm heart and soul in caring for your pets and that in my book is a start down the right path.

These people who were your so called gaurdians, they are abusers. You really cant put any value in what they say based on their abusive actions. I had a father like that and I had no respect what so ever for his opinions or anyting that came from his mouth. He earned that through his abusive actions on me.

Now, these people who cared for you have proven through their own abusive actions that they are indeed the sick ones. You were just a small child. They assumed responsability for you and failed miserably. Physical and mental abuse. That is what it was. Therefore I put no value in their opinion of you. They are sick.

Just having a warm heart and taking care of an animal shows that you have love to give and someday when you are ready you can share that love with a person, have a family, have a farmyard full of animals. You are beginning to shine already in my eyes. That is beauty in my book. And someone, anyone saying another person is unloveable is rubbish!! They are lies.

I have shared my story of abuse here as have many others. I thank you for sharing yours as you are not alone. Its sad that the people who cared for us, these "nonparents" thought it ok in their minds to abuse us. Some in fostercare, and in my case it happened in school. You are an inspiration for us all on your journy of self discovery and healing. Many good things are headed you way, you must beleive this. You must tell yourself you are worthy of love and respect and beleive it. Youve already proven you have love to give. keep your head high and hope to hear more from you. Writing on this site really helps.
Jan 25, 2012
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

April, I really hope that you're out of that house now. Your adoptive parents are truly helpless bullies who chose to use your need for love and acceptance for their sadistic gratification instead of simply helping themselves because they are twisted in their own ways of thinking. They are really acting like little 1-year-olds trapped in grown-up bodies because they are stuck in their own childhood. Oh, and forcing you to eat horseradish, pulling your hair and shoving your face against the vomit for vomiting the horseradish and forcing you to sit in your pee...poor excuses for human beings. As for that pervert who offended you, he should go to jail. He could be offending other girls as well, since perverts don't change their ways until they're made to stop. Oh, and please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse. Oh, and I'm sure there's a lot of loving people out there.
Jan 25, 2012
 Don't give up
by: Rita M

Hi April,
I just want to tell you that you are more worthy than you know.Your adoptive parents had a big problem.You are so young and have a whole life ahead of you.There is no rush into getting married.Your doptive parents never did love you
in the first place.If they did they would've never treated like that.They were unfit people.The Child Services neglected you right aways.They werelazy and didn't care.I can relate with you.It's hard to trust someone when you have gone through something like that.You amaze me because you are at a very young age realizing the concern of being a mother and if you would be able to love.You are brilliant to think like that because most people that have gone through abuse like that start dating and get married thinking that someone will love them just because they are physically attracted to each other.When they start having children there are many triggers to their childhood abuse and have no idea how to handle their own children because they never dealt with the abuse.Please follow your instincts here.There are many places around you that can councell you for the abuse that you went through.
Do that before having children or marriage.Just the way you think is just amazing.That is a sign
that you will some day make a good mother and a good wife if you go for the councelling first.Go
until you totally understand what abusive people
are like and the signs of abuse are. Give yourself a chance to grow You are only 17.You shine in my mind and stand out.I have never heard of anyone at your age think like that.You basically brought yourself up and did a better job than any parent that you were with.You even put other parents to shame with that kind of thinking.I never even thought like that.Keep thinking like that because you will make it.Maybe study to have a career first.You are young enough to turn yourself around.You are worth it.You need to start loving yourself first before having a family and husband.Councelling has alot to offer.Take advantage of that first and discover how much strength you have.Keep going forward.
Be well.
Rita M
Feb 01, 2012
 Hugs
by: Paula

One great big long hug,long enough to equal lotsa little endless hugs.ur heart and head know right from wrong and now u r in control and first sign of any abuse from anyone from now on means unacceptable and no more but I know it can take time for the hurt to go away but try not to let it take too much of ur life but also be gentle and patient with itself as sometimes the remnants of the situation can crop up so at the same time take as long as u need.the healing time no matter how long will be worth it when u finally reach inner freedom healing and empowerment.speak upfor yrself and take no more abuse from anyone,u are ur driver now.seek love from u.ur pets and only kind people,all my love Paula xxxx

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