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Jun 18, 2011
 To Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can understand where you're coming from with your brother; you've been deeply affected by what you witnessed your father doing to him and by what you brother meant to you growing up. He was your protector from your father, and for that you are eternally grateful. Those are the memories you're hanging onto, Anonymous. But the fact that your brother was "gentle" does not change the fact that he raped you and many other girls. It doesn't change the fact that he took something very precious from each of you. The fact that he was so violently and brutally abused himself does not excuse his own actions, brutal or otherwise. You love your brother and you love what he did for you as a little girl; I admire that you're standing up for him in that regard. However, he must now live with the consequences of what he did to you and those other girls. If your father is still alive, I hope justice is also meted out to him. Please consider some form of counselling in order to deal with what happened to you at the hands of your brother and what you witnessed at the hands of your father. I'm very concerned that if you don't, you may well choose a man who treats you in the same way; and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, always. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I wish you all the best during this very trying time.

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Jun 18, 2011
 Sometimes....
by: AnonymousT

Sometimes...as humans we do snap. There's only so much trauma our brain & soul can take. But there's always consequences.
I may be hungry, and I was starved by cruel people so I steal some bread...& then I'm arrested for stealing. It's sad, and unfair, but I chose the crime so I get the consequence.

So often abuse can explain why the victims abuse as well, but it doesn't ok it. There are a lot of vivtims who choose to be survivors & never abuse again, they must learn to heal - but the cycle of abuse does end with them because they choose it to.

I wish you & brother luck & healing.

T
Jun 19, 2011
 Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

I deserve to be treated with respect and dignity: through no fault of mine these were denied me by my caring, loving , protecting brother from the hands and absue of my Father: Wrongly he was abused/tortured by his Father badly from what you share Anonymous: He knew that was wrong and he deserved to be treated with resepect and dignity and cherished, loved and protected by that beast of a Father: Your brother did you an injustice as well as those other girls when he raped you as you say gently: He was wrong: he should never have used and abused you in the name of protecting you: Sadly he fell into the trap of carrying out his rape of the other girls being brutal as his father had been to him: He has deprievd you all of your virginity at a tender, innocenr vunerable time in your childhood and maturing: He must suffer the consequences for his actions: Anonymous out of your love and comcern for your brother you must also tell him he molesed and abused you: He was wrong: you need some form of counselling to make a real sense of darlene's comment: It is affirming, she is very honest with you: she has used helpful loving, caring affirming words from her heart which will empower you once you take the right action in your healing process from the abuse of your brother: It is a tragedy that should never have happened a sibling sexually abusing his sister: Your brother will need real, help, love and support after being in court: You can love him by suggesting what Darlene suggested to you some form of counselling: Your brother was cruelly dealt a wrong deal by an animalistic brutal Father: That is the beast that should rot some place away form society: Your brother could not help that this beast abused/tortured him in his innocene and vunerability: Anonymouse he does not justify your brother raping you and those girls: Now get on with living your own life to the full: Be gentle and kind on yourself and your beatiful body: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Make real and natural friends of your own age and gender by taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities:
I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: Look in the mirror and hug and cuddle that beautiful me person and body: Celebrate you I am worth celebrating I am worth everything: soote over those scars that your brother did to you: Be safe stay safe and always choose someone who will value you: Respect you and won't abuse you: Darlene wants what is the best for you: Anonymous say I want what is best for me: I'M SPECIAL AND I LOVE ME:
Jun 23, 2011
 Hope
by: Finn

No one will judge either you or your brother because you are both incredibly strong for having to endure everything that has happened. I hope you and your family will find peace because you deserve it. You are strong.

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