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May 12, 2011
 To Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. There are many people (some are visitors here) who can't remember what happened to them as children and who want to know. But there are never any guarantees that one you'll ever really and truly know, and two, that it will help you in the long run. You said yourself that you do recall physical abuse and that you were abandoned by your father. Start there. I strongly recommend you seek out some form of counselling in order to deal with the repercussions of what you DO remember. A good counsellor can also help you with the tools and resources you'll need as you go through the counselling process and begin to sift through what you do recall. But if you're always concerned about what you don't recall, you're going to miss out on the Present moment because you'll be forever living in the Past. Choose the Present moment, Anonymous; it's all there really is.

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Darlene Barriere
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May 13, 2011
 MEMORIES
by: Anonymous

Hi, I think that you should deal with the abuse you have already endured because it really is enough to hurt you emotionally without the added details. I was so abused in my own home and every form of abuse applied. I had quite a lot of memories of physical and emotional abuse and was already in therapy for two consecutive years when I finally felt "I made it". Well...6 months down the line I was depressed and suicidal. I changed therapists and slowly started finding out that I was neglected to the point of constantly getting ill plus I was sexually harassed by my own father who would touch me inappropriatelly and make inappropriate comments. Suddenly the memories were unblocked and I was innundated. If I hadnt already worked on all the previous issues I wouldnt be sitting writing to you now I can assure you of that! Please do not push yourself. The brain blocks things for a reason and there are layers of work one must do in order to come to terms and digest what happened. I know that most people want to air everything simultaneously in order to deal with it once and for all and not have "surprises" later on. But the truth is that nobody can do this all at once if the abuse is going on for years and there are so many stored memories that need to be classified in the brain. So dont push yourself. I still have blanks and I know that I was probably molested as well though I dont remember it. I am sure it was either my father or my uncle that did it but I cannot remember. And you know what? What happened to me already is brutal enough!! So Im just going to work from there and when my brain is ready and feels safe then it will "come back to me". I wish you all the best and above all courage and determination and for you to know that it will get better in time and you ARE a survivor.
May 13, 2011
 Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

You have all the ingredients to live a full life once you decide to act on the loving words of encouragement from Darlene to you: You are a highly inteeligent wonderful and beautiful human person behind annonymous: I'M SPECIAL: Celebrate you: You are worth celebrating: There is only one person with your tallents: Your experiences: Your Gifts: God created onny one you: You have immense potential To Love: To Care: To create: At 25 years of age you are at a good age to start having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Get out there being active and alive with your friends and like-minded people taking part in Team Sports: sporting and cultural activities: You'll know the real difference in a short time: You'll open up new horizons for yourself: Hi stay with counselling when you begin: Darlene has spoken to the YOU personally from her womans' The effects of physical abuse remains even though the bruises and marks are erased from the body: The humiliation and loss of self dignity at such a vunerable and innocent stage of our childhood Adolecenece has to be healed from within: So some form of counselling will put it all in perspective for you: Being abaondoned by your father is a form of bereavement so you have to find counselling for that too: Hi, once you open up your horizons and make natural friends through taking part in team sports: Be gentle and kind on yourself and your beautiful body: Hi: Celebrate YOU: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:

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