Comments for Child Abuse Story From Anonymous41

Click here to add your own comments

May 15, 2010
 Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

None of what happened to you was your fault. NONE OF IT. So stop blaming yourself. You were in a dating violence situation with this boy, and there are laws against that. What he did to you was sexual assault. Again, there are laws against that. The fact that your parents seem to blame you, especially your father, tells me that they are warped in their thinking. Your father is a violent man, one that I wouldn't trust after he gave this boy "permission" to assault you further. Please contact one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. You didn't and don't deserve to be mistreated by your parents, or anyone. You DO deserve help now that you have. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
May 15, 2010
 Stay alive
by: Mike

You need to live, not die. You deserve to live. There are people who want you to live. Believe it or not, some day your life WILL turn around and you will be glad you made it through this.

You said:
Psychiatrists weren't any good, neither were psychologists.

That means you didn't see the right ones, or maybe you just weren't ready to get help yet. Please don't give up. You can be helped and you can be happy some day. Believe me, I know. I was beyond the point of no return and was supposed to die at 11:59pm October 31, 1987, but someone stopped me. I had tried a couple times before and that night was going to be the end of it all. I was very mad at the person who stopped me, but then something in my life changed the very next day and that was a day I'll never forget.

Some may think, of course something changed. I tried to commit suicide so someone tried to help me, but it was 2 people who changed my life the next day, and they knew nothing about what I tried to do the night before. The next day was my birthday and I had no intentions of getting another year older with my life going the way it was. The next day, 2 people who had no reason to even know when my birthday was, gave me a birthday I will never forget. I've had 22 birthdays since then and none of them mean as much to me as that one does. Every year I think about what I would have missed if I wasn't stopped the night before.

Please stop trying to kill yourself, stop wanting to die, start believing in yourself and believing that there are people out there who want you in their lives. If I could, I'd take you away from all your problems and show you what life can be like.

Call one of the hotlines on Darlene's stories page and they will help you find the right help for you. Don't give up.
May 19, 2010
 please live
by: Victoria2

Your story is full of hurt, all of these stories are. But the fact that 1) you blame yourself and 2) you are considering suicide makes this story evn more hurtful. None of it was your fault, don't let any one make you think otherwise. Abuse is hard, especially when you feel so vulnerable. Vulnerability, i have learned, is something you only believe in. If you say you are, then you are. Try to think optimistically. I know it may be hard but your strong and you'll make it. Please live, thank you for sharing your story, please don't kill yourself.
May 21, 2010
 x
by: Anonymous

dont ever think something like this was ur fault. in this situation it was all his fault and u shouldnt blame yourself!
May 25, 2010
 Hi
by: Anonymous

Never put yourself down because of what he did. That was not your fault and those people are not your real friends. You can get through this. You deserve to live your life and be happy. Don't let him win.
May 31, 2010
 hi
by: Anonymous

NOT ONE THING THAT HAPPENED TO YOU WAS YOUR FAULT. PLEASE STOP CUTTING YOURSELF AND POPPING PILLS. YOU ARE NOT THE BLAME AND PERSONALLY I HOPE THIS BOB GUY GETS HIS ACT TOGETHER SO IT DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN. I KNOW MANY PEOPLE WHO COMMITTED SUICIDE, CUT THEIRSELF, POP PILLS, ECT. HALF OF THEM ARE DEAD. IF YOU DO THIS TO YOURSELF AND DIE, YOUR LETTING BOB WIN. YOU ARE A VICTUM WHO WAS BROUGHT INTO AN AWEFUL SITUATION. I WOULD LOVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND. THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO WOULD WANT YOU FOR A FRIEND. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION FOR OTHER VICTUMS AND I EXPECT THAT TO LIVE ON INSIDE YOU FOREVER
Jun 01, 2010
 Think of how strong you really are
by: Anonymous

You have an incredible amount of strength to have gone through all that. You can start over, a brand new chapter in your life, and have good friends and good relationships. Bob was obviously an immature jerk, who was probably physically, mentally & emotionally abused, so guys like that tend to abuse girls (kick the dog syndrome). The important thing is that you recognize abusive people asap, and stay away from them. It would also be self healing if you helped an abused girl to regain self esteem. Think about the words you'd tell her if she described the forms of abuse you put up with. You're stronger than you think, don't dwell on the past, simply look forward to today & tomorrow & always remember that "Today is the 1st day of the rest of your life!!!" YOU can make a difference in your own life and help other people too!!
Oct 08, 2010
 Stay here please
by: Anonymous

Don't leave us, please. No one deserves this. Bob's a ***** and you are way too good for him. You have been through stuff no one should even HAVE to go through. You sound so nice! You DON'T deserve it.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Write Your Child Abuse Story.

Return to Child Abuse Story From Anonymous41

Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.



E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...

Most Recent

RSS

  1. Converging Stolen Lives

    Jan 30, 18 01:13 PM

    There was a time and space I didn’t think about you, or your abuse. Where when I looked back at my life, I only saw normal things, a normal childhood.

    Read More

  2. A letter to one of the 13 Turpin children

    Jan 29, 18 11:33 AM

    A heartfelt letter by a former classmate that speaks to bullying and regrets. You'll find it on my Facebook group. I hope you'll join and get in on the discussion.

    Read More

  3. Dissociated From Abuse

    Jan 29, 18 11:00 AM

    I was sexually abused by my father from age 6 to 13, which stopped when I started talking about it during the day. The teenage brother of my best friend

    Read More

E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...