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Aug 10, 2008
 Your family WAS and IS in the wrong...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Anonymous, you didn't deserve to be struck, and you sure as heck didn't deserve to be told you wouldn't amount to anything. You deserved to be loved and shown respect and dignity. You deserved to be hugged and told how precious and wonderful you were. Your parents failed to provide you with some very basic needs. And they KNEW they were going too far with the so-called "discipline" when they kept you home from school after they left marks. They were more concerned about the authorities finding them out than they were about treating you the way they should have. None of this was your fault, Anonymous, absolutely NONE of it.

The fact that you wanted to talk about your sister was a good thing. It showed how much you cared about her and how much you valued her. You were stifled by parents who may well have been stricken with grief to the point of being incapable of coping. Perhaps they realize they did something untoward or neglectful that may have somehow led to her demise; there's no way to know. What's important to understand here is that you did nothing wrong in keeping your sister's memory alive; you are a loving and caring person to WANT to remember her.

You said your family doesn't talk to you now. That can be a very lonely road, I do understand that. But sometimes "distancing" can be helpful. Sometimes it's even necessary. If you haven't already, I urge you to enter into some form of counselling in order to help you gain more understanding of what happened to you as a child. Treat yourself better than any of the members of your family have treated you, and continue to treat you. You HAVE amounted to something, Anonymous. One way you've done so is by bravely sharing your story here with my visitors and me.

As for the length of your story...it was the PERFECT length.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 10, 2008
 hey anonymous
by: Anonymous

I give you much credit to be able to talk about your sister on here. I don't know how ur sister passed away but I know it adds much much more problems to everything else. As I lost my lil sister last yr. from cancer. which brought my parents to drinking. I don't know if that is what is happening with your parents. you deserve to be loved! And I also agree with Darlene (I spelled it right this time) I strongly encourage you to go get counceling. It can help tremondously. I'm srry I can't right much. I have to go right now. if I get a chance I will try to comment later!!
Stay strong, And keep remembering those memories of your sister!! She will greatly appreciate that you don't want to forget her!!
Much luck,
Cassie1
Aug 10, 2008
 hey
by: Cassie1

Ok I'm going to say first that I'm that anonymous.. I forgot to change the name.. I got a chance to comment again so here I am.. Well... First, I actually think you should try and talk to your parents. Now, I'm not a proffesional as I'm 14 but I think if you talk to your parents. And tell them how they are in the wrong. It will help you and help them. They may act like it never happened. And they may be sorry that it happened. If they act like it never happened. It tells you that they are just trying to cover it up still. It hurts them too I guess. Maybe it hurts for them to know that they hurt their child. I think thats probably why they won't talk to you or why they might deny it. It reminds them too much. If they use sympathy.. I think you can go from there. This is my opinion... I hope it helps. Keep hanging in there!! and the story was definately not too long. It was perfect. You said everything you needed to say. At leaste what I can see is what you needed to say. There still may be more actually. But I wish you luck!!
with much luv,
Cassie1
Aug 12, 2008
 ANONYMOUS19
by: Jacqueline

Hi..you took a massive step forward & talked about how you felt,and feel now.For the first time i went to this site last week and wrote my story..(Jacqueline from Indiana.)i mention this because i know how you were treated & Darlenes comments to me apply to you also.
I was you..my life was yours...still is..with a difference now.I am still taking baby steps & one day,who knows maybe the pain will go.
I am married now with a Daughter..from the day she was born i told her she was so loved,special & "my world".She is aware of my child-hood & is now a successfull,free-spirited,loving Registered Nurse.
You are probably alot younger than she is,but you are just as important.You will change your child-hood patterns,the way i did...as the years go on & when you have your own children,you will surround them with love..i just know it!!
You will have strength to look back & know you were hurt so badly,abused so terribly,but ..know also this wasn't your fault,you have come through this with deep scars,they slowly heal,everyone on this site is you and your life,we just have our own variations!!
You are a very special,caring person,your letter shows this..you mentioned you had never felt love from your parents..i am 45 & my father has never kissed me or hugged me & never told me he loved me..but i can't alter that...my love is too precious to waste on him now.
I am from England,living in America..my love is for my family 5000 miles away & for people like you who need a big hug..i am sending one..did you get it(smile)
Take care..remember you are strong,important,and very valuable..wipe your tears..take the next step forward..
Jacqueline
Aug 25, 2008
 You are so strong.
by: Anonymous

I swear. That IS abuse. You are so strong and amazing for telling us that. Kudos! Your family shouldn't have done that. Clearly they were wrong, and although I don't know you, you are someone I respect.
Apr 03, 2009
 Very very very wrong
by: Anonymous

It's not your fault. What your mother did was very very very wrong

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