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Jan 05, 2008
 NOT consensual...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You must stop blaming yourself for what happened. You DID NOT consent. Young children CANNOT consent to a sexual act. Consent CANNOT be given when there is:
  • force
  • manipulation
  • coercion (what your cousin used)
  • abuse of power (i.e. your teacher, sports coach, etc.)
  • threats
  • intoxication
  • a third party says yes for someone
You are adultifying your 7-year-old self. You were not responsible for what happened to you. None of what happened was your fault. Absolutely NONE of it! In order to start the healing process, you must change the way you are looking at this. If you had a 7-year-old child who had suffered what you suffered through, would you blame that child? Would you actually believe that the child was responsible or capable of saying "yes?" I doubt it. So why would you blame your 7-year-old self?

I strongly urge you to enter into some form of counselling to help you deal with the repercussions of the abuse you suffered, and to help you understand that you really and truly were not to blame.
Jan 05, 2008
 Heal the world
by: cat

When I was 6, something similar happened to me. we were being babysat by 2 brothers who were 11 and 14. the 14 year old started acting sexually towards me, Im still not sure fully of what happened. I remember so much, and then blank it out. My mother believed that the 14 year old was only a child and acting innocently. I don't believe that one bit, as 14 year olds are not children, they are fully established teenagers, and know exactly what they are doing. I understand the feeling of being detached from the whole situation. Its hard not to be when you feel so ashamed. However, don't judge me when I say that, once you can accept what has happened, as nothing can take it back anyway, then you can begin to heal and use your own experience to help to heal others. Really, the only thing that really helps when you have suffered emotional trauma and abuse is to talk about it with who you feel comfortable and then you can heal yourself. With thought, time and patience, maybe we can all heal. It sounds easy, but its not. However, it can be done.

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