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Sep 15, 2008
 TELL someone besides your parents...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Amanda, you need to tell someone what your grandfather did to you. You said your parents know and won't do anything; please tell a trusted teacher or counsellor at school or perhaps a friend's parents. Loving grandfathers DO NOT sexually molest their granddaughters, Amanda. EVER. You didn't deserve to be molested by your grandfather. Please consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Sep 15, 2008
 Abuse is Not About Love
by: Linda Settles

You have figured it out, Amanda. Sexual abuse is a crime, it is a henious sin against an innocent child, and it has doing to do with love. It has to do with lust, spiritual and emotional emptiness, and addiction, emotional addiction. It has been proven, repeatedly, that abusers seldom (if ever) stop with abusing one person. Most of them abuse many innocent children before something puts a stop to it. Your grandfather will continue to abuse--because that is what abusers do. Most law enforcement officers and psychologist would agree with me that while sexual offenders cannot be "cured" they can learn to control their urges if --and only if--they are confronted with the truth of the horrible things they have done, brought to justice, and held accountable for working a recovery program.

Since you have told your parents and they have reacted with apathy, that may be an indication that his abuse did not begin with you. It may have begun with one or more of his own children--and your parent's shame may keeps his secret. If someone sexually violated one of my daughters, I would be angry (enraged), sorrowful, and determined to bring the criminal to justice.

Your parents need help to get to the bottom of their apathy. Please believe me, theirs is not a natural response to what you have told them.

You are the only person mentioned in your letter who is acting responsibly. You may be the healthiest person in your family--even though you have gone through a terrible ordeal.

I know that nothing I have said will lessen the pain and suffering that you have gone through--but maybe it will help you to direct some of that energy towards reaching out to others-- as Darlene has done and as I do every day.

God bless you, Amanda, for your courage and insight. You are on the healing path, and I would encourage you to find others who walk that way with you, perhaps a school counselor, or at least an online crisis center such as Darlene suggested.

Keep on processing and never - ever - give up.
Sep 15, 2008
 Have the lowlife arrested!
by: Linda

Amanda8, Men like your grandfather make me want to throw up! He knew what he was doing to you was a crime. That's why he told you not to tell anyone. He took something away from you that belonged to your future husband and you will never get it back. Your parents are as bad as he is, for letting him get away with it! There are probably countless other young girls he molested,also. It is not too late to turn him in to the police or child protective services. If you get married and have a daughter of your own, would you want him to rape her too? Because that is what he did to you. Break this malicious cycle of child molestation before he does it again. Don't let being sixteen years old stop you. It took alot of courage to put your story on this website and I admire you for it. I have been in your shoes and I know how you feel. Please turn him in and stop him. He deserves to be locked up and out of society where he can't hurt anymore innocent children. I'll be praying for you....God Bless You.....Love, Linda
Sep 22, 2008
 Its Tough
by: Anonymous

amanda i just read your story
its really upseting to hear you should really tell someone about this if he loved you as he said he would never do such a thing to hurt you the same sort of thing happend to me when i was younger only it wasnt my grampa i kept it a secret for so long when one day i spoke up . it helped so much and now the man who hurt me will never hurt me again or anyone else please speak up its for the best xx

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