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Jan 21, 2012
 Ally:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's always so difficult to come to terms with betrayal, especially betrayal from a mother or father. And that betrayal is made worse by the fact that you were adopted to begin with. You were abandoned once already...to have it happen again with sexual abuse is the ultimate betrayal. Regardless of what your mother tells you, you are NOT to blame. You will never be to blame. Blame lies squarely on the shoulders of your abusers. Period. End of story. You mother is lying to you. Don't take her word; it isn't worth the time it takes for her to speak it. You see, when she has to admit that she had responsibility in the abuse as an enabler of sorts, she can't deal with it because it means she failed as a mother. So instead she points the finger of blame where it doesn't belong: away from her, and onto you. Ally, you need help coming to terms with all this. Don't try and do this alone. Please seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you had to endure, and what you were forced to live with after disclosing. You didn't deserve to be abandoned. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused. And you didn't deserve to be betrayed by the very person who was responsible for keeping you safe from harm. You DO deserve help for the fact that all this happened to you. Always remember that you did NOTHING wrong. The adults in your life and your older brother were the ones who did wrong. Reach out for the help you need. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and positive energy, Ally.

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Jan 21, 2012
 Ally
by: Rita

Hi Ally
You are coming ot terms by just telling your story.It is not fair what has been happening.
It is too bad your mother whom you expected to
protect you didn't stand up for you.Had it been
any of my children I would have called the police
and laid charges immediatly.It will help you to go for councelling and have someone give you a healthy feed back and believe you.Your emotions
are normal.At least you got the messege out but I
encourage you to open up and really come to terms with this.You can open up and go for councelling until you feel confident to maybe even charge your uncle and your brother.Stand up
and take what is yours.Healing brings back who you're supposed to be.I hope the best for you and your future.It will all turn around wait and see.
Take care Ally.
Rita M
Jan 22, 2012
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Ally, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of those sick perverts for uncle and brother and allow them to offend you 24/7...how dare she! Shame on her for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from those brutes! I am disgusted by her reactions towards you turning to her for help; women who choose men over their own children...children should always come first. Plus, a mother who chooses such sick perverts over her own precious daughter is the mother who doesn't deserve to have said daughter in her life. It was her job to protect you and she chose to abandon that job. You are not to blame for their disgusting behavior; they are to blame because they chose to offend you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and chose to misuse it over you. I really hope that you're in a safe place now, that you try counselling and that you look into reporting those sick perverts because they could be offending other little girls as well, since perverts don't change their ways until they're made to stop.
Jan 22, 2012
 they are the ones who are hiding
by: Jill

Ally,
I think you're an amazing person who is strong and advocates for yourself. You were never to blame for your family's dysfunctional behavior. You did the right things by questioning your uncle's and telling your mom. You weren't hiding from the truth, you faced it with dignity, grace, and courage. They were and still are the ones who are hiding. Find help in counseling with caring people who don't hide from what happened and can help you stand back and see the big picture and help you see how powerful you really are. Once you see how childish your adoptive family is, you will be able to heal this part of your life and grow into an amazing adult!
Best Wishes

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