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Dec 20, 2010
 Allisa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The first situation you described was sexual abuse; it was NOT him having sex "with" you. He was sexually assaulting you. The fact that you told him you were 14 doesn't change the fact that you were actually 11 and incapable of consenting to any kind of sexual act. The fact that he tied you up made it aggravated sexual assault, and for that he should have gone to prison for a very long time. The second situation was relationship violence. Both of these boys were offenders, and likely continue to offend. What's important is for you to understand why you keep choosing such violent partners. Please consider some form of counseling to help you with that, so that you don't keep choosing the same type of offenders. You deserve so much more than such poor excuses for human beings. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Dec 21, 2010
 Get Help: NOW: Get your life together: Become strong:
by: maurice

You have told the truth about your abusers on Darlene's site: She has lovingly given you advice what you is in your hands to do: Get help: this means if you truly LOVE yourself, and want to learn from your you bad abusive experience's you'll get counselling: Counselling will put all that you wrote honestly to Darlene and her many visitors in perspective for you: You are intelligent: What you also need in your life is a friend that you can depend on: Yes Allisa, your own age and gender: one who will listen, value you, care about you in a genuine and sincee way: Will help you to be strong and go for counselling, stay safe, will warn you off if she feels from what you tell her that that boy-friend is not good for you: it won't work out: Your pastor and your ex boyfriends parent's know: What about your own parent's? Your Pastor is there also to give you spiritual and temporal advice for your betterment: So take charge of your own destiny and life: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Taht might mean looking at the way you live your life: Taking part with others your age and gender in sporting and cultural activities: Team sports are one sure way of having a healthy miond in a healthy body: You'll make real and natural friends, have aquaintances who will cheer you up when you meet them: Firstly though take the words of Darlene to hearts and be pro-active in getting help and counselling
Jan 04, 2011
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by: Anonymous

hi i'm 11 and i went on this site because i'm doing a school project on child abuse and in your story i read that you were 11 and you had a 19 year old boyfriend that's just crazy, my advice for you is stop having so many boyfriend focuss on school and if you do have boyfriends try and stick to your own age groupp.
Jan 08, 2011
 rape is horrid and shouldn't happen to anyone
by: Lyric

ok so the fact that both those guys were older is a bad thing. try dating people your own age because when you are older you are going to find out that the sexier you look the more guys are going to want to be sexually active with you. or maybe its just the older you look. please take care of your self and dont be with men much much older than you.
Feb 14, 2011
 Please date guys your own age!
by: Anonymous

That's absolutely horrible, your boyfriends had NO right to do that to you. You deserve love and respect, and they didn't give you that AT ALL.

For your own safety, please date guys your own age. Since your 13 years old, you should be dating 12, 13, and 14 year old guys, not 19 year olds! I know you may like older guys, but it's dangerous for you to date someone that much older.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, Allisa. I hope you can go to counseling to help you deal with the emotional damage caused by being sexually assaulted, and to try to figure out WHY you're attracted to guys so much older than you.

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