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Apr 23, 2010
 Alison:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 24, 2010
 To Alison
by: Anonymous

Hello Alison,

My father started abusing me when I was about four and I didn't tell my mother until I was eleven. By then, she and my father had been divorced for five years. They both remarried and I had a healthy relationship with my stepdad.

After the divorce, my father married a woman with two children, a girl who was my age and a boy the same age as my younger sister. The abuse continued, not only with me, but also with my stepsister. When I told my mom, she contacted the police and my father was arrested.

I was lucky to have a mom who believed me and was appalled by what had happened. My stepmom, however,urged us to forgive him, as Christians should do. I am now 43 years old and still resent that woman. My father was convicted of contributing to the deliquency of a minor and spent only six months in jail. When he got out, my poor stepsister had to live with him.

After many years of not knowing what happened to them, I recently re-connected with my step-siblings. My stepsister told me he still tried things with her, even after being in jail. A couple of years later, her mother and my father divorced.

When I told my mother about the abuse, I don't think it even occurred to her to get counseling for me. In the seventies, some cases of abuse were reported but most people kept to themselves about things like that. Abuse was just not something that was discussed--what parents did with their children was their business. Now, though, things are different.

Alison, I don't know if you got any counseling to address your abuse or not, but I hope you will consider doing so now. Thanks to talk shows, self-help books, and a loving family, I am ok but I think life would have been easier if I had been able to talk to a counselor. I now teach Special Education for high school students who have emotional disabilities. I have only been teaching for four years but have been very disturbed to find that all of my female students with this disability have been sexually abused or raped.

I think it's great that you found this website and told your story--that took courage.

All the best,

Cecilia
Apr 26, 2010
 Always believe in yourself: Stay safe, Be Safe
by: maurice

Oh Allison, Annonymous heart has gone out to you in her comment, how caring of you she is and sure empatises with you: It was great you found this site, even greater still you told your story: I am more and more wary of step-parents, I've no doubt the majority of them love and cherish the children of their partners and make sure they are safe: We sure have found out on this site that step-fathers abuse alot, now we have a step-mother: She has abused you greatly, she has used your innocence and your vunerability for her own sickness and gratifications sexually: Please get and think about counselling to help you deal with all she did to you in abuse: Begin healing from what happened to you and one huge step in that direction is to talk to a counsellor/therapist. Have a real friend or two who will stand by you, make you feel needed and wanted, loved, valued, respected, cared for genuinely in trust and friendship. Allison Always believe in yourself, I am special, I am unique, I am beautiful, I have a right to my dignity and integrity: Value and respect your beautiful and wonderful self: build up your Self-Esteem. Build up a good mirror image of yourself: what you know that step-mother abused be gentle and kind with, love your body, soothe and massage nice cream and lotions into it making you feeling good on the outside and inside. Go give yourself a hug hug and cuddle and say I love me. I am not asking you to do anything silly Allison but something very normal and natural. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Oh yes Allison this is a must, intergrate and mix with like-minded people your own sex and age in sporting and cultural activities: Team Sports I believe and know work wonders for the young and not so young: There is safety in numbers. Allison, stay safe, Be safe, get counselling, Trust yourself first and then trusting others again will come easy for you. Allow those nearest in trust to you hug you and love you, Don't let that Step-Mother of a B'''ch ruin your life. You will be a winner over abuse. As you read the very real and natural stories on this site you'll learn that there is life after abuse. From Victim To Victory Allison. You strive to be a winner. OK
May 03, 2010
 hi
by: Anonymous

i was abused by my uncle when i was 6 years old i still have to see him on special occations but i didnt tell nobody im scared that after 12years nobody will believe me!

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