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May 27, 2009
 You're a VERY caring friend...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sophie, you can't help your friend all by yourself. This is way beyond what you can provide; what any friend could provide. And you ARE a great friend.

There needs to be some kind of intervention. I point you toward my child abuse intervention page for some ideas on how to handle things when Rose discloses abuse to you. Don't discount the "S" of the H.E.A.R.S method. You too need someone to talk to about this, Sophie. It's too much to handle alone. So make sure you treat yourself well and ensure you have a support system of your own in place. While your mother doesn't have any suggestions to offer you that will help Rose, she is there to help YOU.

Continue to be a supportive friend to Rose. Offer her the number of Child Help 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order for her to talk to someone about what her home life. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to her. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help her through the process of reporting if she decides to disclose any abuse. You too can call them.

Sophie, the other thing I feel compelled to point out is that Rose's stepsister Elana is not the enemy. Try not to blame her for all that is going wrong in Rose's life. Elana is the product of a mother who seems to be doting on her every move. If Elana really and truly can do no wrong and never gets correction EVER, then she is being neglected. And I'm not just talking about yours or Rose's perception here, I'm talking about reality. You aren't there all the time and neither is Rose, so neither of you can know for absolute certainty. But to blame Elana for what's happening to Rose is misguided and inappropriate. If Rose's stepmom is mistreating her, then it's her stepmom at fault, NOT Elana, no matter how much you find Elana distasteful. So please, I respectfully ask you to refrain from calling Elana names (you'll note I removed your derogatory reference to her).

If Rose's dad won't step in and protect her, then Rose will have to reach out to someone who can. But you can only lead her to that kind of help. The rest is up to her.

Take care of yourself, Sophie, and keep being a great friend. Thank you for sharing Rose's and your story with my visitors and me.

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May 30, 2009
 A true friend is all I have my life is made worthwhile by their loving of me
by: maurice

Oh Sophie, you true friend, great you are there for Rose. She is one very lucky child of the universe and God. Stand by her, you give her hope, share with her honestly at all times, tell her your fears for her, Tell her you care and love to bits, she's your friend too you know Sophie. Sophie just be friend, tell her what you think might be best for her. Sophie read Darlene's words of love for you and Rose. Her caring concerned words are true. Darlene knows best and emphtises with all her visitors. she is a caring woman professional person in all she advises. I believe in her, will you for your friend Rose. Don't you feel anyway responsible for what rose is going through. just be a true friend to her and you live your own life to the full with your friends and say I'm Special. I'm Beautiful in my own right and I must make a good life for myself. Sophie your the best. Rose will be all the better for knowing you as her friend.

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