Child Abuse Effects Linger

by Maurice
(Eire/Ireland)

The Effects of being abused linger on within each one of us: 
Since the horrific Ryan Report in institutions and schools supervised by Religious Sisters, Brothers, and Priests here in Ireland I have been feeling the effects and scars of my abuse as a child in such places. Thankfully, I have moved on and made a great sense of it all on me. But a report like this takes one back to those awful days. While I have erased most of the effects, nevertheless I have realized that once abused as an innocent child/teenager/adolescent by whoever is lasting.

Great I can and have talked it through with people who love me. They being there for me now even just to listen to me is a great support. I have worked through loads of stuff, the after effects for me of the abuse. Thankfully, with the support of a professional I have been able to let go of a lot of hang ups around it all. It was not easy, and I still have to work at letting go each time it surfaces.

It was a tough week reading and hearing of the horrific abuse done to innocent children. When one's innocence is taken from one by such uncaring self gratification adults in whatever form of abuse, one suffers internally a lot from it.

Having seen the advantage of professional and true friends' help who listened to me, I know the importance of it on all the people who have been abused. I could not have reached the high level of self worth/esteem, body beautiful image of me which makes me feel all powerful and all loving of myself and others who have been put through abuse.

These are my gut feelings today and for the past week. I hope it will be of some help to the many visitors to Darlene's site. There is life after being abused. But one has to work at it constantly. Letting go of it is a must. I feel a lot of the people who are now making statements from the point of whose FAULT was IT? are only giving lip service. They really don't feel the real feelings of you and me or empathise with you and me who were abused.

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