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Jun 11, 2009
 The "blame game"...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Maurice, every day I read more and more about the fallout from this Ryan Report of institutional child abuse. And every day I think about you, and what you (and so many others) were forced to endure at the hands of such deranged people. Every day I wonder what news article will come forth to further remind you of what you had to live through all those years ago. It does not surprise me that the focus is on blame and finger pointing rather than on where it needs to be: the victims, the lingering effects on those victims, and how they need help today.

If the focus must be on blame, then it should be with the intent of ensuring that what happened in the past will not ever happen again. That would require the parties who were complicit to step up and admit their role; and then work toward redress for the survivors. Let us hope that the public outcry and demands bring forth what is required for these child abuse survivors and your nation to really begin to heal.

If you haven't already read it, I posted an article today about the Ryan Report. Although I doubt any of it is news to you, I thought I'd point you to the URL: Child Abuse by Religious Orders in Ireland

Thank you, Maurice, for sharing even more of yourself with my visitors and me. Your willingness to share your story and your process of healing is truly an inspiration.

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May 02, 2011
 The past month has proved this to me
by: maurice

I have found my own way to let go of the thoughts of the effects which survice from time to time: In the past month I have shared deeply with two childhood school friends: One from my home place in rural Ireland whose Father abused her with his belt beating on her bare bottom into her late teens: embarrassing her and humiliating her each time he told her to go to her room for a beating: she told me while she has lived a good life with her husband rearing two lovely girls herself: who are now happily married and loving: still she told the going to room to undress for a beating still haunts her: so the effects of abuse linger on underneath and undercover even though she did receieve counselling from time to time: The other was a boy who was beaten on his bare bottom by the same Dean of Discipline as myself: (pervert) we both drew the same conclusion: he has had counselling too but the thought of being naked and beaten as an adolecent maturing surfice's from time to time and he drinks heavily for a period until he talks to a friend or someone who puts it all in perspective again; He is single and works hard to keep himself busy: he feels he is bi-sexual and has to control his fancy or fetish for bottoms: Sad: listening to both of them I encouraged them to stay in some form of counselling and to have one or two friends to share their feelings with: letting go as soon as possible is the answer when memories of the effects surfice: I am lucky to have real friends in my life: Maurice

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