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Mar 27, 2009

Great informative and supportive site
by: Mrs. R.

i agree with you wholeheartedly Darlene. This site is not here to Glorify abuse, try to shock people, and/or degrade others. I feel you do a wonderful job of running your site it cannot be easy continually reading about other peoples pain. You have to use discretion because this site is about Human Sufferings not about machines. Also if you did not keep a tight reign chances are the site would crumble.

Mar 27, 2009

good on you Darlene
by: Maurice

Thank you a million thank you's. Your site is a gift and a blesing for survivors like me of child abuse. If I could have read the mind of my abuser I might have a clearer understanding of his motives. I don't know if he was abused as a child, I know he was army trained when he was in charege of me and the boys at the school I attended. A diciplinarian of his own making as to how we should be discipled. He maintained and said it a number of times to us as boys that our bottoms were ready made to be spanked or whatever for correction reasons to make us better boys. I know now there may have been an ulterior motive in this claim of bare bottoms for a beating of his choice and at his whim. Darlene You make it quite clear that your site is to give the opportunity to the abused child to have a platform to share with other genuine real life stories of what happened to them. Very well watched over by you so that I (each abused) is supported and benefit from the telling of their story. Again thank you.

Mar 27, 2009

To Mrs R and Maurice:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank YOU both for your kind words and support. You are both tremendous assets to the success of this site with your encouraging and validating comments to other visitors. You share of yourselves within those comments, but not at the expense of over-shadowing what the visitor experienced. I treasure and honour people like you.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 06, 2009

shocked by comment
by: Anonymous

I was really shocked by the "possibly product of your own fantasy" comment.

Maybe this sounds a little daft, but I kind of wish that he/she was right, that stuff like this only exist as fantasies...that none of us had to live through, and then remember stuff like that.

Thank you for your website. You've got my respect.

From Darlene: Thank you, Anonymous. I agree with your comments. When I first read what this person wrote, I wondered if s/e would have the same response to a person who disclosed being sexually assaulted by a parent; something so many of my visitors HAVE disclosed. And then I realized that I was getting a comment from someone who must be in a great deal of pain to be so quick not only to brush off such information, but to accuse me of something less than honourable. I too wish that such things were only in fantasies, because then it would mean much fewer people in such pain. But we live in the real world. Again, thank you for taking the time to comment.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 07, 2009

knowing you daily use your professional stewardship over your site is my guarantee that I am safe to share my abuse reality
by: Maurice

Abuse is real, it happens, it takes all forms, from birthing to adolecence. Innocent and vunerable children/human beings are traumatised by it when it happens to them. Many of the abusers were in most cases abused by someone themselves but never sought help or shared there story until their abused were forced to tell on them. for their own peace of mind and self preseveration. Great your site is there for people to share their pain of abuse. It is the beginning for most to accept, acknowledge that they did not deserve to go through such abuse, that it was never their fault. Each human life is sacred and deserves to be treated with Respect and dignity. Our society in general is a good and caring one. 80% of family life is perfect and loving. Parents/Guardians of the innocent child in the rearing treat them as such and love abounds. But the other 20% sadly ruin many lives until they seek help and support beginning here on your site. That is a blessing from on high. I know and all the visitors to your site know you are genuine. I knowing from you having shared with us your own abuse effects and story. Yes, your site is a stepping stone for the abused to Grow into having a great sense of their self worth, which enables them to bulid up their self esteem and confidence to know their own beautiful self. You Darlene give them hope in the help they seek with your loving words of encouragement. It can be expensive to seek counselling and I'm sure each of your visitors is aware of that as I am. So your site is a haven for us all to begin tellng our story. Yes, finding a true genuine friend is a must for everyone of us. I know that for every one who abuses their is an honest, genuine caring human being all around me. around us who care, respec whom we can trust to share our abuse story with. There are loads of genuine listeners around us. your support and advice makes us aware of that Darlene.

Apr 07, 2009

To Maurice:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Once again, Maurice, I thank you for your encouraging and supportive words. As I've said before: you are a gem, both to me and to the many visitors of this site.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 08, 2009

Happy Easter
by: Mrs. R

Hallo Darlene, I believe that you have done a wonderful job with your web site. There is so much information you do not need a link to go elsewhere. I have recommended your site to a few people even our sons partner who is in University studying to become an elementary teacher. She also takes Psychology so this site is very informative for her.
As a Survivor of all abuse I know how a person can feel all alone and believe no one will believe them and/or really listen to them. Here on this site a person quickly realizes "hey I am not alone there are others out there too". Also from reading other peoples life stories we all try to point out that we are not to blame, it was not our fault, the adults crossed that sacred LINE that they had no right to cross and were never invited. They are to blame not us. We all need to hear this over and over, it takes a long time for some people to come to terms with that. Even after all these years for me I still occasionally like to hear "IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT"
Here I hear that, Thank you everyone.
HAPPY EASTER EVERYBODY!

Apr 09, 2009

To Mrs R:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Once again, thank you so much for your kind words and your support, Mrs R. You too are such a valued contributor here on this site. People like you keep it interactive; a lifeline for so many child abuse survivors, survivors who have always felt alone in their unbearable pain. You honour me by spreading the word about the site; thank you.

I wish you, and all here on this site, a Happy Easter.

Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 09, 2009

Thankyou
by: StacyLynn

Darlene and Maurice,

Thankyou so much for your comments. I truly appreciate the positivity that radiates out of both of you. To be in the places that you are in your lives is truly inspiring and definitly a goal to work towards.

Darlene,
An eternity of thankyous for providing a safe place to share our stories. Good luck on your new book and my prayers are with you.

StacyLynn

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