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Dec 28, 2017
 To ScapeGoatChild/Susan:
by: Darlene - Healing Coach

You might be surprised by how many people completely understand all of what you described happens when you've been a target child. Though most find it difficult to understand how the "golden ones" are also being abused emotionally. You're right when you say they do not get through their childhoods unscathed. They witness abuse, and normalize and justify it for the person being abused. In other words, they learn the opposite of empathy; disdain and tyranny. It's a long term childhood lesson in turning evil.

And though you lived through unimaginable abuse and pain, who you really are shines through as caring, compassion and love.

For the sake of you and your children, I do hope you find a way to distance yourself from the abuse one more time.

I send you continued loving healing energy, Susan.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Jan 04, 2018
 Many thanks
by: Anonymous

Thank you Darlene for providing a place where people who have been abused can go to "vent" and share their feelings with those who understand and do not judge. I thought I was defective, abnormal and alone and wanted desperately to be understood. Unfortunately I have learned there are many who have known the suffering that is "Target Child Selection" and Scapegoating and I wish I could give everyone like me a great big hug.

Also thank you for your compassion, support and for actually caring about your fellow human beings. Your commitment to this site and the concern you show for all who have been abused makes those who have felt unloved all their life feel accepted, respected and appreciated. Bless you!

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