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Mar 10, 2015
 Layla:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's not at all unusual to "feel" pain in the parts of your body that were abused as a child. When there's a strong emotional connection to what was happening in the moment, the body remembers. It's actually called "body memory". So of course, when this happens, you'll have the same of similar emotional reaction as you did when it was actually happening. And sometimes it's difficult to know what comes first, the memory, the emotions or the body pain. But that's not as important as what you're feeling in the moment. And what you're feeling in the moment will have a direct impact on how your body responds. We know that the body does not know the difference between an actual event taking place or the memory of one. That in and of itself can have a tremendous affect on your health. That's why it's so important to be open to healing. Anger and hostility is so understandable, and such feelings and emotions need to be processed. If they don't get process and eventually released, they will consume you. And what that ultimately means is that the abusers end up continuing to control you. And THAT would be a shame.

You have so much to offer the world, Layla. What these despicable men did to you does not represent the whole world of men. Just some. You must find a healing modality that helps you to deal with your pain so that it can be released, so that you can find yourself, and within finding yourself, make healthy choices for yourself. That does take time. But you're worth it. Those abusers don't deserve to have one more moment of your life, either in vile memories or in fear/anger/hostility. You deserve healing. You deserve to live your life in full potential. And the world deserves you in a way that will make a difference. You survived the worst of it. Layla. You survived when others were in control. And now it's time to take back control of your life. I KNOW you can do that.

I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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